DH and I recently had our second baby last week.
DB and SIL were 6 weeks pregnant with their third when she got very ill with Covid and was in hospital, and lost the baby. They announced the pregnancy when she was in hospital.
When my family came to visit the baby for the first time on Monday, they were not smiling, not even when they held the baby. Making no conversation, sitting silently, sad faces. My mum took a call from DB and SIL in the middle of the living room and was literally pacing in the middle of the room talking to them.
Every time I've talked to my own family they keep giving updates about SIL and honestly making me feel uncomfortable as if I have to feel guilty about our baby.
I texted and called them and they have congratulated us. AIBU to think my family is wrong to keep focusing on it in the context of our baby, although it's very sad what happened?
I feel evil even asking the question but I don't understand why that can't be a separate topic, and not brought up when we are welcoming our new baby. I have had losses as well and wouldn't want that to be the focus on the birth of another baby.