To put ds to bed at 5.30pm, with no dinner, becasue I had had enough of him ?

[Oblomov]

He is nearly 4. He normally goes to bed at 7-7.30. He was VERY tired. He didn't have a nap today.
He was misbehaving when dh and I took him to M&S yesterday. We did talk about " acceptable behaviour".
Today I needed to return an item to Debenhams. He was running round and round and wouldn't stay with me. Then we went to Sainsburys. I took him out of the trolley at the end. He kept touching the pin machine. And then he ran off, from one end of the store to the other. Wouldn't listen or respond.
I got to the car. To find I had left keys at till. And I started to cry.
I phoned dh when I got home and he suggested, as he was obviously tired, and falling asleep, that I put him to bed.
Which I have done. He hasn't had any dinner.
Why has he run me so ragged ?
Was it bad of me to put him to bed?

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Overtired, and it wasn't like a punishment, if he was falling asleep anyway you were just being sensible.
If he wakes later he might be hungry though. Maybe have some little sarnies ready in case.

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Not unreasonable at all. I regularly shove my kids into bed early if they are winding me up. Do try to get some dinner into them before though but only to prevent an early/hungry wake up.

yabu and yanu, dont take him shopping, shops are open so late now cant you go when dh/dp is home? putting him to bed wont kill him but i would have snack ready by your bed so you arnt stressed again.

Its exactly what my DH WOULD HAVE SAID! I tend to avoid doing this as DS is skinny already and I hate him not eating but honestly when they are that tired it is really the kindest thing so I am learning from DH and you may find he'll probably eat like a horse tomorrow! And if you'd kept him up you'd either have got crosser and then felt bad, or more stressed and then felt bad - ours actually asks to go to bed sometimes!

How is he, and you, this morning Obmolov?

Oh this sounds so familiar, DS wound me up so badly the other day he was put to bed at 4 o'clock when we got in from the school, he was woken up at six when we had dinner to see if he was hungry and then went back to bed but tbh if a child is really hungry they wont sleep or they'll wake up so I really wouldnt worry about it.

lennygrrl, I either say in a loud voice 'she's brain damaged and can't help it' or 'I'm sorry, but it is catchng you know'

I am fine thank you rebel.
He woke at 6 am, his normal time. Ravenous. Had 2 banana's prior to his nursery breakfast. He was a little sweetie this morning and said he was going to be " specilly good".
I am at work at mo, and am looking forward to picking him up.

Oh good.

FWIW, I'd have put him to bed too. If he was that tired, he'd have only messed with his food.