To have had my appointment before her none existent one?

[MintyGreenDream]

Had an appointment today with ds new headteacher,checked in at Reception and then heard the Receptionist phone through to let her know I had arrived.
A woman arrived and asked if she could see the head for a few mins about her GD the Receptionist said she would ask.

Head came out and looked at both of us and the woman said can I speak to you for a couple of minutes please? The Head asked me if that was OK.I said I'd like to be seen first please as ive got to be elsewhere after this.The woman wasn't happy and asked how long we would be.
Was she an entitled CF or should I have let her go first as she only needed "a couple of minutes"?

No because a "couple of minutes" can mean anything from a couple of minutes to half an hour. You had places to be

You had an appointment...,She didn't
A couple of minutes.... then half an hour later...

I've been stupidly thinking about it on and off

YANBU she was a CF

You want a specific time, you make an appointment.

You did. She didn't. Simples.

Neither of you were unreasonable. There's nothing wrong with her asking, and there's nothing wrong with you saying no.

Fine for her to ask but also fine for you to say no, and she should have been gracious about it when you did. YANBU.

Yes, fine for her to ask but fine for you to say no, and tbh you were right to do so as it could have been much longer then a couple of minutes.

You were absolutely right. I hope she was gracious. And its never just a few minutes!

Anyone cheeky or desperate enough to pop in to see the head without an appointment isn't going to be a couple of minutes

You weren’t unreasonable to say no as you didn’t have time but the head probably had an idea what she needed to talk about and the need for it to be done hence asking.

The head should not have put you in an awkward position and should have told the woman to arrange a time with reception. I highly doubt it would have been just a couple of minutes.

Unless the grandparent is the legal guardian of the child the HT should not have been discussing anything with her

The secretary/office should have been managing the heads diary- no unplanned appointments

Neither of you were being unreasonable.
She may well have had an emergency happen and could really do with speaking to someone that afternoon, so no reason why she couldn't ask, but equally, if you needed to be other places and it wasn't convenient for you to wait, were perfectly reasonable to say no, you needed to have your meeting at the appointed time.

Yanbu
You were even there first. Even if you didn’t have an appointment, she would have had to wait.

I think the head should have said to her, I’m afraid I’ve got an appt now and showed you in, not asked you!

YANBU. You had an appointment. She can either wait her turn or make an appointment of her own next time. As pp said, you had no way of knowing whether it would literally be a couple of minutes.

She was perhaps cheeky to jump in but we don't know the background to her GD nor urgency. Perhaps the school are aware of something hence the unscheduled meeting was able to happen in the first place. The other way around mn would be advising go for it and just ask, the worst that can happen is someone says no.

What you did was fine, don't give it a second thought.

Also: Yes, obviously she can ask to see the head first (for only a couple of minutes 🙄), but imo, that was rather rude to do unless it's literally an emergency. But for her to act annoyed that you wanted to go first (because... you were there first and even had an appointment) is proof positive that she's a CF. You did nothing wrong. There's no reason to second-guess yourself!

I agree. The Head should not have shifted the responsibility of saying 'no' from her own shoulders onto yours.

The head should not have put you in that awkward position, and if whatever the woman had to say was that important, it would have taken more than two minutes and she should have expected to wait until the head was free. You did nothing wrong.

I hate it when people put the owness on you instead of making them look bad they push it on someone else

yanbu

I'd probably have said "If you're really only going to be two minutes...because I need to be somewhere else after this appointment"
But for selfish reasons, because I know that otherwise, the head would have the other woman on her mind during our appointment, and maybe cut it short to see her. I'd rather that she'd got the other woman out of the way so we could focus.

Yes, the head was thoughtless.

Was she an entitled CF = No, it's always worth an ask.

or should I have let her go first as she only needed "a couple of minutes"? = No, because you needed to be somewhere.