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To not tell husband I'm pregnant

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Thisismyfirstrodeo · 13/06/2022 19:46

This is lighthearted, but is it unreasonable to keep a positive pregnancy test result a secret from my husband until Sunday for Father's Day? I had a sweet vision of bringing my son in wearing a big brother t-shirt in the morning. Husband currently travelling for work, but will be back tomorrow and might ask if I've taken a test/got my period, so could involve lying 😶

Has anyone else managed to keep it a secret for a while? It feels wrong but I think he'd enjoy the surprise!

Also I don't have any other ideas for a Father's Day gift.

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COL1N · 13/06/2022 19:48

I think that sounds really sweet! If he asks could you just say you've not taken a test yet so not a full blown lie that you aren't pregnant. Congratulations!

jeffbezoz · 13/06/2022 19:51

If you can keep it a secret great. I couldn't and kept acting weird!

Giraffe888 · 13/06/2022 19:53

I personally couldn’t not tell him for that long. Congratulations!

Ponoka7 · 13/06/2022 19:53

If he asks and you lie, he might think it's out of order. Did you make a big fuss on mother's day? You've got time to plan food etc. Or you can say that the early pregnancy symptoms have hit you hard and you haven't had the energy 😉

TaranThePigKeeper · 13/06/2022 19:54

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frydae · 13/06/2022 19:56

I think if he doesn't ask then yeah, it could be a plan, but I definitely wouldn't recommend lying if he does ask about it. That's said 'any sign of AF?' could honestly be answers with a 'no not yet'

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Thisismyfirstrodeo · 13/06/2022 19:59

@TaranThePigKeeper my son is a young toddler and won't have a clue so I'm not worried there!

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DimplesToadfoot · 13/06/2022 20:20

Yes to the big brother TShirt

If he asks if you've taken a test, sigh loudly, roll your eyes and say huffily "yes I've taken a test"

Then say nothing else, he might think the test was negative and won't want to push it and you've told no lie lol

Congratulations!

Dinoteeth · 13/06/2022 20:27

Not me but my friend gave her DH a baby grow for his birthday!

HRHBreathMints · 13/06/2022 20:34

Yes please do this! It sounds so sweet and will make it a Father’s Day to remember

PurassicJark · 13/06/2022 20:35

Aw definitely do that! That's not horrible or deceitful at all, it's cute.

PutOnAHappyFace · 13/06/2022 20:39

I had visions of doing this, all lovely ideas but then ended up sending DH a million pictures of 'does this look like a line to you'.

Congratulations, the t-shirt idea is really cute.

OperationRinka · 13/06/2022 20:39

I think it's a lovely surprise but personally wouldn't buy a "big brother" T shirt so early because I'm superstitious.

Applegreenb · 13/06/2022 20:40

If he asks why don’t you say I’ve not tested yet, i i might save it will Father’s Day. Then he won’t be asking you to test before Sunday

youlightupmyday · 13/06/2022 20:41

Very sweet idea

AnotherNC22 · 13/06/2022 20:42

That's such a cute idea! My DD was born on Father's Day and all the midwives wished the dads on the ward that day a happy father's day. It was lovely 😍. He did forgive me not having a gift prepared! 😂

Tusinsm · 13/06/2022 20:44

Congratulations and omg this is absolutely terrible but I thought yesterday was Father Day and my children celebrated it with their dad. Only when I just read your thread, it clocked to me that they celebrated it on the wrong day. For god sake

Applespearsandoranges · 13/06/2022 20:44

Could you not do it ahead of Father’s Day? I don’t think I’d feel comfortable lying to my dh unless you think he won’t ask?

BetsyBigNose · 13/06/2022 20:46

The day I found out I was pregnant with our first DD, I arrived home really excited to tell DH, only to find our NDN/friend at our place as he'd locked himself out and had to wait for his girlfriend to come home with the keys. When we were alone in the kitchen for a moment, DH asked me "Did you do a test today?" and I just told him "No, not yet", cos I didn't want our NDN to find out! We ended up doing a trip to the supermarket all 3 of us, then sat and watched the news together before NDN's GF got home and I could finally tell DH that I was pregnant! So my vote is Yes - it's totally fine to lie to your DH, it's worth making the moment special!

JuneJubilee · 13/06/2022 20:47

AnotherNC22 · 13/06/2022 20:42

That's such a cute idea! My DD was born on Father's Day and all the midwives wished the dads on the ward that day a happy father's day. It was lovely 😍. He did forgive me not having a gift prepared! 😂

What do you mean?? He had THE best gift ever!!!!

JuneJubilee · 13/06/2022 20:50

@Thisismyfirstrodeo definitely ok to 'lie' for a lovely surprise! That will be SO cute.

buying a t shirt is not going to affect the outcome of a pregnancy.

WTF475878237NC · 13/06/2022 20:51

If he asks could you just say you've not taken a test yet so not a full blown lie that you aren't pregnant

^that is a full blown lie!

gamerchick · 13/06/2022 20:55

It's father's Day this week? 😳

I think it sounds sweet OP..good luck and congrats.

Midlifemusings · 13/06/2022 20:57

I wouldn't lie but if you can pull it off without lying then fine.

Could ruin the surprise if he is annoyed you lied to him.

Mummyoflittledragon · 13/06/2022 20:58

That sounds really sweet. 😄