What do you consider as an affair?

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Rather than side-track my other thread, I thought I'd ask here.

What do you consider an affair?

AIBU to consider a husband meeting up in secret and not in secret with the same woman, kissing and groping that woman on several separate occasions in a 2 month period an affair? They had planned and booked a night in a hotel with the intention to have sex however they were found out before it could take place.

If it isn't an affair, what would you call it?

100% an affair

I'd consider a romantic relationship with another person to be n affair, whether it was sexual or not.

That is 100% an affair.

When they’re doing things they wouldn’t want a (reasonable) partner to find out about. So for me, anything physical that you wouldn’t do with a friend in front of your partner, discussing anything emotional that you wouldn’t feel comfortable telling your partner about etc.

I’d definitely call the example in the OP an affair.

It's 100% an affair.

I think that is an affair. It’s certainly not a one-off/one-night stand. It might be considered a ‘fling’ if the man were single, but if he is married then this fling equates to an affair, as it is a repeated set of regular meetings with sexual/romantic intentions.

Why do you ask? Does the man in question think a certain number of meetings need to occur for it to be deemed an affair? A certain threshold of sexual activity passed for it to be considered an affair? A certain amount of time needs to pass for it to be considered an affair?

If you have to hide an aspect of your relationship with someone to your partner then it is an affair, a betrayal and not ok. There doesn’t even have to have been anything physical involved ~phone sex, text sex, on camera sex~

Some posters on my other thread don't consider the example to be an affair because sex did not occur. I was wondering what the consensus was but didn't want to derail the other thread.

It's an affair. There was sexual activity even if it wasn't PIV sex.

That's definitely an affair, no doubt about it.

In my view an affair doesn't have to involve sex. Any relationship which has an emotional or romantic component and is kept secret from the spouse or partner is an affair.

Does the definition really matter? It’s cheating. Cunts.

Definitely an affair

It's an affair

It's an affair 100%

Of source it's an affair. PIV sex isn't the pinnacle of all sexual activity. Otherwise do lesbians never cheat? Load of old nonsense.

an attempted affair. I would say it's infidelity but that covers a wide range of actions, depending on the couple

This. It doesn’t have to get physical for it to be an affair imho

Definitely an affair

Definitely 110% an affair.

so the people on your other thread would be happy if their OH did this?

100% an affair. For me an affair is about emotional betrayal. Weeks of secret meetings, kissing and cuddling seems more of a betrayal to me than some sex - eg a pissed quickie in the pub toilets. Both are betrayals but I’d only call the first one an “affair”. (Would be the end of a relationship for me either way though)

100 per cent an affair! What on earth are they playing at..
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Definitely an affair.

For me I think it's cheating when they are having any kind of sexual relationship with some other woman/man. I've seen the term 'emotional affair' used for the sort of cheating relationship conducted over the internet where the two of them might never have been closer than 100 miles apart. I thought that was a stretch personally when there are nudes/sex based video chats etc.

They were in the same place, kissing, touching etc. It's just an affair.

I saw your other thread and couldn’t believe some of the responses! Of course that’s an affair. Anything they feel the need to hide from you is straying into dangerous territory but what you described IS an affair. And as for those who said it wasn’t, would they be ok with it? Would they hell!! I’m sorry this happened to you.

Of course it was an affair.
MN is weird sometimes.