To have exposed him to his family..

[GroovyChick2k]

My ex was messaging a young (18) girl behind my back while I was expecting. She was a close family friends daughter and was vulnerable at the time (homeless) and he sent her bank transfers in exchange for naked photos and videos.
I found this out after we split up. His friends and family were calling me all the names under the sun as I had started seeing someone else after we split, they never liked me anyway and would send me abuse on social media. We have 2 children. Ex was trying to get back with me and get our family back together.
So I got hold of the screen shots between him and this girl and sent them to his family. He said I've now ruined any chance of us getting back together(!!) I said I was sick of being made out to be the bad guy and it was time he was shown for who he is and how he was to me.
Was I in the wrong for doing so?

Or just exploitation if they wouldn't pursue CSE.

He's a sex offender. I would absolutely go to the police. Your children are at risk.

He said I've now ruined any chance of us getting back together(!!) Erm, no, I think that was you, exforaverygoodreason

I hope the girl is ok

You were not at all unreasonable. I think they needed to know so that any other family children can be protected.

That is the main thing, although you could also say that revenge is a dish best served cold.

Frightfully familiar. 🤔

This happens all the time. Almost as if there is a disgusting amount of vile men exploiting loads of vulnerable women

He said I've now ruined any chance of us getting back together(!!)

Tell him not to flatter himself because you have no intention of wasting your life with a sex offender.

Actually you did exactly the right thing although possibly for the wrong reasons. He's a safeguarding risk and those close to him need to know that so they can protect their young and vulnerable. What he did was truly vile and I'm sure you're crying into your cornflakes that you've ruined your chance of getting back together with this creep xx

To be fair I think they meant that word for word this exact niche scenario was posted on aibu a few weeks ago down to the ages, content of video, homelessness aspect. Not disputing that men taking advantage of vulnerable women/girls though.

He sounds like an ejit and his family sound just as bad. As if you'd even contemplate getting back together with him!!

As for the girl, you said you will stand up for her. Can you try and support her into a better position for herself? She sounds very vulnerable

Have his family backed off abusing you now they know the truth?

i would have done the same-in the end though they always side with their own

Nah, that's fine. He's just pissed that he was outed as at best, a manipulative, coercive creep to a homeless teenager it sounds as if he's known since she was a child.

Serves him right.

Pretty sure there's more than one sick fucker exploiting a young girl for sexual kicks in the world.

Good for you. People around him need to know that young women are at risk free him.

Love how he’s saying you’ve ruined any chance of getting back together. Erm did you ever imply you wanted to get back with him! What a disillusioned idiot.

Have his family backed off you now! How is the young girl doing?

FROM him, ffs.

Right, but how many are exploiting an 18 year old homeless family friend's DD into sending videos of them having sex? And then it just happens to be posted on here by the ex?

Fuck him, I'd have done the same. What a piece of shit!

What a scumbag, you’re well rid of him. And I’d have done the same with the screenshots.
Makes you wonder tho how much lower he can go.

🤢 I think you did the right thing. A family friend who is vulnerable. How low can you get.

Me too.

Thank you everyone. I expected to maybe get a bit of backlash from people so I appreciate the support.
I've told her I will help her all I can, i'm obviously trying to look after my own children and find us somewhere to live but I said im not angry with her (she thought I would be) and it's him who exploited her. I blocked every member of his family after sending the screen shots round so they can no longer contact me, would love to know what's being said between them though!

I’d actually say that you had a responsibility to let his family know he was acting as a sexual predator. The only issue here is that you didn’t do it immediately when you found out.

Good move.
At one stroke you've made sure the creep won't come begging for a second chance, and every family member will look out for their daughters.