To think fertility issues makes you question if motherhood is worth the hassle

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My next step is to get some private treatment but I've had the referral letter in my bag for two weeks and just can't even be bothered to send it to my insurer to book in the initial examination to sort my fertility problems.

I can't be bothered for this aggro. I first fell pregnant three years ago age 33 and it that had worked out I didn't have time to bother thinking about the logistics of it and I'm sure it would have worked out fine.

Now three years later I have to have an operation to fix the fertility issues, I haven't even got to IVF yet which still light be necessary after but I just cannot be bothered with it all.

I don't know if I feel like this due to mental exhaustion of it all or wether it is a sign to just forget the whole thing.

I question if I really wanted it wouldn't I have sent off the referral letter by now and be desperate to get treatment asap or is it just a sign of burnout?

I can't seem to look at this objectively hence why I'm posting!

Jesus, have kids or don't have them but don't homogenize women with children just to make yourself feel better. Plenty of us have grreat relationships with our husbands, careers, happy lives and plenty of money. They aren't exclusive to the child free.

Or none of those and wouldn’t necessarily ever have done or happy marriage or good career BUT have children and absolutely do not regret them for a nano second and see how much positive they bring in to their lives and that they are so much better off for having them!

I never got pregnant, dont know how I would have coped with miscarriages. But I was always reasonably ambivalent about parenthood, and to me, my fertility issues (did I subconsciously know about them?) were a big ARE YOU SURE moment, to which the answer was no, I'm not, I'm not going to pursue this.

Nearly 50 now, no regrets. Still adore my husband. Have worked part-time for nearly a decade now, because I can afford to precisely because we don't have kids. My free time is mine. I have a lovely life.

You can only play the cards you get dealt, but there's a lot to be said for making a decision. I couldn't have spent my 30s trying to make it happen, it would have destroyed me.