To want people to call me by the right name?

[DilemmaDelilah]

I find myself getting increasingly annoyed by the number of people at work who shorten my name and who don't pay any attention to the (very clear) signature at the bottom of my emails. My name has a long version, which I prefer to be called, and a commonly used shortened version, which is not what I want to be called. Think something like Suzanne being shortened to Suzie. I am working with some very senior people in my organisation so I don't feel able to correct them, especially has they have been calling me by the wrong name for a couple of weeks now. It's not soooo bad if it's just them, but they have now put it on a document which has been circulated amongst the senior team, so I think I may now be forever 'Suzie'. 😞

I have a relative called Deborah and she will correct you if you call her Deb or God forbid, Debby.

Of course you can correct someone senior at your work, it's your name! As long as you are polite and not rude about it.

I should have corrected them at the start, but it was in a Teams meeting with other people and not really appropriate. I think it is too late now.........

Its never too late...just catch them in a one on one and just mention that you are sure they didn't do it deliberately, but you prefer your full name rather than the shortened version. It should then filter down. I did it myself and its really not a problem

Correct them next time. Today's opportunity has passed but gently correct them next time.
I have the same issue, a name with an obvious shortening which I don't use so I know exactly what you mean!

This is awkward. Frankly, I think it's very rude to shorten someone's name unless you know them well - and even then, almost never in a work setting. Obviously this is not the case if the person introduces themself by the shortened name.

You should have said something at the start, politely and with good humour. You missed that chance.

So, depending on the culture in your workplace your options are:

1. Ask a trusted colleague/manager to intercede on your ehalf and to have a quiet word with the relevant people.
2. In your next general email round re the issue, include a line saying something like, "Thanks for the update. Can I ask that my full name be used in all documents and meetings as I don't usually use the shortened version and I keep wondering who "Suzie" is when these notes come round. All the best, Suzanne"

I'm with you op. I don't like my 'proper' name and I never ever use it unless it's for official documentation. I introduce myself by my preferred, shortened name and people STILL shorten it - to a derivative I don't like (think Cassandra > Cassie > Cass)

It really annoys me. Surely if I've introduced myself as Cassie, that's what you call me?

I call my self Dalekjastninerels (not my real name obviously- I do not go aroumd saying Exterminate!) mostly, but am ok with Dalek too, but OP it's your name if you want to be called DilemmaDelilah (obviously not your real name either )then then that is what everyone should call you.

You are NBU

I allowed myself to be called Angela by a colleague at a previous job once for months. My name is not Angela, not even close really apart from beginning with the same letter.

My name is difficult to pronounce for some, although I don't know why. So I go by a short nickname version, because I'm sick of being called by so many different mangled pronunciations. Is your name remotely difficult to pronounce?

Get the same, all the time. My name is a boy's name when shortened. A common dog's name too it seems.

Stand up for your name OP.

Why is it too late....🙄

My name is easy to pronounce and it's how I introduce myself/sign off. I really don't like the name people sometimes shorten it to. If they do that it seems rude or ignorant as well. I don't like confrontation though, so don't say anything.

First day in a previous job one of my colleagues announced oh your name is Lucy (not real name) is it, I shall call you Luce. I looked at her and told her she wouldn't because if she did I wouldn't answer her. She tried doing it for a few days and I ignored everything she said to me.

It was one of the maddest places I have ever worked. I was part-time and used to finish at lunchtime. Living at home, my Mum used to have lunch waiting when I got home and be waiting for an update on what the staff had done that day. They all lived for drama and there were daily tantrums, people crying and hissy fits.

Can I ask that my full name be used in all documents and meetings as I don't usually use the shortened version and I keep wondering who "Suzie" is when these notes come round. All the best, Suzanne"

Do this if you want to make yourself look stupid!

Just tell people. It's not too late.

My name is double barrelled. I have always been known by that, or the initials (think Amanda-Jane or AJ).

I HATE being called the first part of my name. I simply don’t identify with it as my name, wouldn’t respond if it’s called out in a crowd and cringe when people call me it. But people invariably do.

I will let it slide if it’s likely to be a one off conversation; but correct them there after. If anyone uses the name, it’s clear they don’t know me well or at all.

When I introduce myself I generally say ‘Hi I’m Amanda Jane, AJ for short, but never Amanda - unless you want to fall out”. People usually laugh and try after that to get it right, and I don’t mind a slip up if I can see they are genuinely trying.

Usually my name proceeds me, as it’s unusual (have never met another) and the abbreviation is quirky so it’s easily remembered. If your too lazy to use the long version, use the short - no excuses. Unless you want to fall out, that is!?!

A few weeks is nothing. Stand up for yourself woman! Just say it's Suzanne. Every time. They'll soon learn.

I never use my "real" name and always go by the shortened version, always have and always will. It annoys me if someone uses the real name, especially after I've introduced myself as the short version. Although both versions of the name have uncommon spellings and it annoys me when people misspell it too, particularly people I've known for years (members of DH's family) or when it's right in front of them.

DH much prefers his nickname and doesn't like his real name but his parents refuse to use it.

Just correct anyone who gets your name wrong. Draw attention to their mistake whether that's in an email or in a conversation, don't just hope that they'll notice!

I had to do something similar recently. I chair a meeting from time to time and we have had a number of staff changes as well as clerk changes. They put me by an incorrect name on the minutes (I have two surnames and they only put one). I just emailed the clerk and asked that they update when circulating for final sign off as I use both.
If I get things with the incorrect name, when I reply I politely point out my name is Ms Zarquons Sandals.

Quite frankly, if Gerald can come in after working for 23 years and announce they are now to be known as Susan then you've really got nothing to worry about being late.
Just ask nicely and say, this has been annoying me for a while and I thought I could just deal with it, but I actually really hate being called Lizzy. Could you call me Elizabeth? I'd really appreciate it.

Hate people shortening my name and always say something even if it is afterwards

Hahahah this made me chuckle. Deffo op!

My name is easy to pronounce so no difficulties there. I think if I get the chance I will either let him know that I prefer my full name, or I will see if I can get a senior colleague in my department to let him know - that would be my preferred method as I think I would be too chicken to tell him face to face but you never know! I don't want to embarrass him. If it was me I would be mortified!

I don't have on my email signature but some colleagues do; could you add a 'say my name' to your signature that breaks down how to pronounce your name? But yeah also just tell them, my name is Suzanne not suzie, I never liked suzie/prefer Suzanne. Thanks.

Honestly, just tell him. Nobody is too important to be politely corrected. He might be mildly mortified for two seconds, it won’t kill him! You deserve to be called by your correct name, it’s just a very basic level of respect that we’re all entitled to.

How can it be too late to correct them if they're still doing it? Plenty of opportunities to correct them.