mil needs assistance to do most things. She is not disabled , she’s just not very independent. She has 3 nearby children who see her and do stuff for her everyday. I work full time in a dental practice. She wants me to make her appointments . I can’t do it easily as I’m always busy, reception is always busy. I have made appointments for her in the past but then she has asked me to cancel them ( for no reason ) . She can’t drive so not only do I need to know her diary , I need to know who’s taking her. To be honest, I don’t want to get dragged in to running around after her too. I did all that for my late Mum, Dad and Aunt without help from anyone. After asking me again and again to make her appointment and me saying I can’t , I cracked and asked reception to call her. They called her three times and she never answered her phone . She told me she either didn’t hear the phone or didn’t pick up as it was an unknown number.
she carried on asking so in the end I made her an appointment on a day I could take her. She wanted an earlier one so asked me to rebook it. All this is before the said mentioned 25 texts.
i texted sil, explained Mum wants a dental appointment , probably best if she makes it if she is taking her. Queue 25 texts between me , mil , sil , asking and answering so many questions, often twice. AND mil being rude about my colleague who has treated her in the past . I’ve ended the conversation with a shrugging emoji as I’m at the end of my tether with this …. And the fucking appointment hasn’t even been made yet. tonight after work I received a message to say mil and sil are popping to our house . They left before I got home but clearly DH also had a discussion about the appointment to be made.
im currently buying / selling a house so any tiny bits of time I get between my own patients is taken up answering those e mails so 25 texts in less than 3 days is absolutely doing my head in.
DH sympathises and did mention I can’t see my phone at work for much of the time but he and I are now not talking as it has stressed me out so much and I’ve ended up a nervous wreck sitting by myself seething and mind blown that I’ve seen 8 hours of my own patients, answered several e mails about the house purchase, made house related phone calls and answered all these unnecessary texts. So I’ve shouted at him tonight when he chipped in too.
Its not even treatment . It’s for a check up and hygienist visit.
i know this may sound like an over reaction but dentistry is really stressful at the moment post covid and this on its own is enough to leave me rocking in a corner so this has pushed me over the edge tonight.