To wonder if all 10 years old are this dizzy?

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Walked over her boots and shoes which were blocking the doorway rather than putting them in the shoe cabinet she was walking past, so expects everyone to keep stepping over them all day it seems

Used a tea towel to clean something of hers from the garden which has been out all winter, slimy, slugs on etc, then leaves the tea towel on the kitchen worktop for someone else to come along and use (rather than putting near/in washing machine)

Spits toothpaste round the sink, leaves soaking wet cloth in sink, leaves lid off toothpaste, now doesn’t know where the toothpaste is

the list goes on ! It’s like this every day with her.

I don’t know whether it’s dizzy, apathy, lazy etc. it’s so annoying. The others can shift stuff, she’s the oldest.

She goes to school September 2023, I can see her permanently being in detentions for this sort of behaviour.

anyone else’s 10 year old (or older) still like this? I need some ways to help me cope, what if she is still living at home in her late 20’s !? How much wine will I need ???!! 😬

What?

This is just not being an adult yet. I do most of this stuff, and thankfully my mum isn’t in my house to berate me for it, and everything is fine. Lid off toothpaste so what. Never had a detention either.

Sounds like a typical ten year old to me. They grow out of it when they get to about 20/21.

You are describing a completely normal ten-year-old.

She goes to school September 2023? What does she do now?

She sounds like a 10 year old that is maybe expected a little too much of tbh.

Presumably she's being home schooled until secondary age.

Yup, totally normal. Unfortunately 🙄

I’ve found that giving sole responsibility for certain chores helps etc putting out the recycling; sorting laundry etc.

Not home schooled, I have a day off work and their primary school is still on school holidays this week.

You all really wouldn’t expect her to move shoes for right in the doorway or a gross tea towel?

I am ‘slightly’ reassured that it sounds normal. When do they grow out of it though? Is it soon ? 🙏 😬

Her chore for money is watering the plants. DC6 complained this morning that his plant was dead due to not being watered for ages 🤣

You’re looking way too deeply into this

leaving her shoes out and expecting everyone to step over them is a wild leap. She’s not thought oh everyone can step over them that’s ok I don’t care about everyone else. She’s just left her shoes out

she left a tea towel out for someone else to sort.
nope she just left a tea towel out. Obviously your adult brain knows someone else will need to sort it, but she just didn’t think that far ahead.

maybe it’s just how you’ve written it here, you’ve felt a bit more free to be blunt whereas perhaps you aren’t like this irl
but I’d probably be a bit more clumsy and forgetful if I was panicking about my entire character being judged and my future predicted (constant detentions? For what?) because I left the toothpaste out. You may want to just keep an eye on if she’s able to pick up on your irritation and her failure to meet your expectations as that probably won’t help.

justkeeppeddling 20 !!!!!

Sounds like me

I mean detentions when they forget stuff for high school, books for certain subjects etc. At the moment when it’s a pe day I remind them but she will have a timetable with it on so will need to look at that.

the high school is strict, I know one boy got detention for black socks instead of grey for pe 😬

Wow. My youngest is 15 and now d say he's worse than this 😀

It's honestly a case of ' please move your shoes' , 'pop this dirty tee towel in the wash' , ' I'm sure the toothpaste will turn up ' and repeat ad finitum until they move out

This is so normal. I was like this myself until I was 30 and realised no one else was going to tidy up for me and I began to notice and mind and now I’m very tidy and organised!

My ds is like this...finally starting to improve a tiny bit at 17 ...however i didn't want him to get detentions at school for stuff like this ...so helped him make sure his bag was ready the night before .......and get into that habit....

My dc would have been really upset with lots of detentions...as a good kid but disorganised so would not have improved skills just stressed them out....

Is she always disorganised?? How is her schoolwork... Clumsy?? Could it be something like dyspraxia /ADD ..

If not then maybe she'll get more organised as she matures..
Having a clear routine can help any kid starting high school its quite a change

That's not "dizzy"
It's the result of laziness and poor focus by the parents.

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Remember this OP.

I was like this, disoriented and unattentive, only it continued and now at 40+ am trying to get an evaluation for female ADHD. Bloody difficult as my NHS trust provides literally no adult services in this area of expertise. Was going to pay privately before covid then felt it best to trickle away savings on living expenses instead.

I am not saying your DD has this, she could be like my 20 somethings, just not thinking. But please do not show a fed up or disappointed attitude, I know in my case it makes it worse.

She's ten. DTs are ten and start secondary in September. They are messy as fuck, wouldn't occur to me to think about detentions in school. Isn't that just being a child?

Yep, this is my 10 year old too. All perfectly normal. Unless I’m stood over him giving instructions this is what happens. They don’t think for themselves until 20 I reckon, I’m in it for the long haul… ha ha

You won't want to hear this but my dd is terrible for leaving boots in the middle of the floor, leaving washing up by the sink and not washing it up, leaves stuff everywhere.... she is 24! She is in the process of getting her own house, I will miss her but the lack of mess will be lovely.

averythinline I have looked at Dyspraxia etc in the past actually but I didn't think she meant the criteria in lots of the other ways listed.

I think she's maybe just daydreamy. She had a school residential a few weeks ago, I gave her the list Sunday morning of what she needed to pack. Anytime I checked on her she was either dancing round her room to music or lay on the floor reading whilst wearing a big furry coat whilst it was boiling hot weather. I gave up after 90 mins on the Sunday, tried to leave her to it as she was excited to go, did a bit with her again Sunday evening and she was still having to pack Monday morning ! It was only things like 3 pairs of shirts, 4 long sleeved tops etc , nothing too taxing on the list.

I just find it SO hard as I am not that type of person and the other 2 don't seem to go off on a tangent like she does.

Thank you for all your replies, it has given me food for thought.

It really isn't. It's just typical tweenager behaviour.