Am I expecting too much from marriage

[Toomanylosthours]

Husband and I have been married for a couple of years. for the past 6 to 9 months I've continuously asked him for support with chores. There's no young children. I work average of 3 hours a day more.
Marriage to me was about becoming a team. Helping, supporting each other. Not taking the other person for granted. The only thing he does chore wise is mow the lawn and walk dogs 50% of the time. Do I continue to put up with feeling like a maid or do I just cut free? I can afford the house and bills on my own! I'm not financially reliant on him. I hear so many stories about women who just give up and continue to do everything whist their husbands become lazier and put in even less effort as the years go on

I send a morning text message to my partner every day with a list of chores which he needed to do. And if he hadn't done them, they'd go on the next day's message... and the next... I never did them for him.

Worked because he couldn't use the tired excuse of "didn't realise what needed doing."

Well you could give him lists, or just refuse to do his share of the tasks. But he's shown you how little of a shit he gives about you by the fact that he won't step up. What's the point in continuing to share your life with a lazy, selfish arse?

I don't think it's the easy way out to end a marriage that isn't working.
In fact I think it's incredibly brave, and I'm extremely grateful (even though I took my marriage vows very seriously) that we live in a culture/society where women are about to leave.
You are in a privileged position, it would be a shame to lose that position in the world and end up someone's unpaid housekeeper.

How exhausting, you still have the mental load of being the pertain who allocates the tasks! A bit like their mum.

About = able

Thing is op, this early on and it's like pulling teeth?

Fuck that. Quit whilst you're ahead and find a better fella.

Which is weird as before we moved in together his place was immaculate

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Yeah. But it's EASIER for HIM if YOU do it for him.

Sorry to shout. But I've lived like this for 14 years and believe me it gets no easier.

I too think a trial separation. I mean, reading your op about ‘one of those men who do less and less’ how could he be one? Because to be blunt how could he do any less? Get a dog Walker and finding someone to come once every two months for an hour or two to mow the lawn and voila, you have made his contribution to your life completely redundant.
if you do go trial separation route, you can’t let him
back in easily. You do not want to turn around in a year and you are where you started- think about some standards you need him to meet ongoing so he can’t just gradually drop all the balls again.