To be angry at boyfriend?

[godsavethegin]

Thursday I went away with my boyfriend to Liverpool.
It was meant to be a romantic weekend away.
Anyway we were sat outside in Liverpool in a pub beer garden enjoying the sunshine.
A few guys sat next to us on the table as it was busy.
Then a few more joined the table.
He was chatting away to them and we stayed there with them for 5 hours.
I asked could we have 1 more drink with them then do our own thing ...he said we are all having fun (I wasn't )
Then we went to a nightclub with them.
I wasn't happy.
He kept saying "what's wrong?"
"You not having fun?"

We got back to the hotel about 1am and I wasn't happy and we ended up arguing.
Was I wrong ?
Aibu ?
I explained my point of view and he's response
"I was relaxed and having fun,we were together what's the issues "

If anything you’re unreasonable to not be more annoyed! You shouldn’t have tagged along. You should have shown more agency and taken yourself off to the hotel earlier if he refused to leave. Sounds like he’s taking you for granted. Not a nice thing to do.

I have an ex like this. My first ever boyfriend. He loved to chat to just about anyone, anywhere it was like a need AND hed then expect me to treat these total strangers as a priority, be polite, outgoing etc, it was a lot sometimes.

I did find it really frustrating at times, we didn't really move forward because of it. Nice enough guy, we are still friends. His now wife I consider to be massively outspoken and demanding, but I guess she is someone who can assert her own wants and needs with him.

I would be weirded out if my bf got this chummy with people he has just met… does he do drugs? Can’t think of another reason hed want to tag along to someone else’s night out.

At this point he’s only ruined your weekend before he ruins anymore of your life get rid of him

Oh dear op. You have bought a house with someone that doesn't put you before others. Not a good sign I'm afraid.

I'd find that really weird sorry OP. I mean it's sometimes nice to chat with new people but then to just glom on like that?

He doesn't even know these people! I imagine they invited him to the next venue to be polite but then were weirded out when he actually came!

I've only ever seen people act like this when they're really drunk or high.

Was he attracted to someone in the party?

People like this clearly can’t enjoy company of the person they’re with! I have friends whose husbands want to make friends on holiday and spend time with them.. I find it weird and always think it’s because their partner isn’t enough!

Oh stop gaslighting. She doesn't have to cOMMuniCatE that a romantic weekend means 1-on-1 time.

Wow that is bad. It sounds like he was bored with just you and obviously thought he would have a much better time with some random people. How can he not see how insulting that is.

He's an absolute dick.

I'd be getting rid.

What is he been like since? People make mistakes and read situations differently. It’s not the mistake I’d be judging but what he did afterwards. Has he apologised? Actions louder than words and all that.

How long have you been together?

He's always doing this.
He talks to absolutely anyone
We've been together 4 years now

Just get rid of him. It’ll be a lucky escape.

Talking to anyone is annoying.

Ignoring you and your feelings is unacceptable.

Why have you put up with it for so long?

Honestly - the sheer quantity of women with horrifically low standards makes me utterly depressed.

If I was having a crap time I would go and entertain myself. Lovely night in a hotel bed - dreamy.

I don’t think he’s wrong or right. You’re just on different pages.

I dont think it matters who liked doing what.

The issue is, you told him you didnt like what was happening.

He had various options and instead of saying 'no problem, I dont even know these people, what would you like to do now?' Or 'ok well I love talking to strangers, let's stay here a bit more and do something of your choice later' he basically decided to ignore you and carry on doing something that you didn't want, while emotionally manipulating you into believing you would be ruining the weekend if you expressed your feelings again.

Its normal to be able to Express your feelings
Its normal to find a compromise

It's not normal to ignore your wishes while blaming you for having a shit time caused by his actions

If you hadn't just bought a house I'd be suggesting you leave

He'd rather talk to random strangers. All night. He refuses to acknowledge that isn't working for you.

Do you want to accept this forever?

Or find someone who wants to be with you, respects and values you?

I'm guessing if you've just bought a house together then he doesn't have to make any effort at all now.

Has his behaviour deteriorated since you bought the house together? Imagine how bad it would be if you had a child and were really trapped...

Don't worry too much. I think possibly you didn't make it clear enough that you wanted to go off together and it just be the two of you. Were you talking to other people in the group as it may be that he did look at you and check and it looked like you were fine about things

If you were sat on your own looking miserable then yes that was out of order of him.

@Bethany7 the OP says I kept saying this is meant to be our weekend away - surely that should have made it clear to him?

If you KEPT saying it to him then yes that's out of order of him for sure...

I wouldn't have gone to the nightclub if I didn't want to. I would have left the pub when I'd made it clear I wasn't enjoying myself too.

He doesn't seem to give a fuck about you tbh. I would leave him and find a better one.