To want this sort of life

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I follow a set of people I know through friends of friends on Instagram and just really envy their lives. There’s a big group of friends whose kids all play together, the mums all regularly have lunches/nights out and they’ve all just gone away to an island with partners/husbands too. They’re all really wealthy and good looking and their lives just look perfect
Anyone have a life like this 🤷🏻‍♀️

Why are you following them on Instagram and thinking about their lives if they are so far removed from yours?

I don't get it. There will always be people with more money than you. And less. People with more handsome husbands. Why are you interested in looking at photos of them?

I’d hate to be part of a group line that. Way too much politics and commitment!

It’s understandable, rich people have fun times, easy to be envious but comparison like that is a one way ticket to misery. It’s a very simplistic solution -but I would stop using insta, just avoid. It seems to really mess with people, including/especially the people who seem to be living their best lives. I know a successful model who posts regularly on there, lots of followers, effortlessly fabulous posts, and she gets pretty depressed if she doesn’t get as much feedback- ruins her whole day. I bet her followers think her life is pretty amazing too, doesn’t seem that way to me though

Op, console yourself with the fact that they probably follow people on social media who own their own private islands and have chauffeurs and cooks and make them feel crappy about their little villas and holidays to Suffolk!

There will always someone who has more than you. Try to be grateful for what you have and enjoy your life.

its the Kardashian’s isn’t it ?

Comparison is the thief of joy OP.

I'm pretty sure it would be a pretty shallow existence. Sometimes always a glossy facade hides a lot going on behind the scenes.

I know you think you know them OP, but I can guarantee there is more to them than what you see. They may well envy you

I work in a team that sees people daily who are on the verge of suicide. You'd b surprised how many appear on the outside to have perfect lives. Most people wouldn't have a clue where they r at with their mental health or why. There is domestic violence, trauma, depression, PTSD, insomnia, terminal illness, bereavement, relationship probs, financial problems. So so so so much happens behind closed doors. Very rarely.do.people.show to.others their true selves, their pain and their suffering. We often only see the money, the 'happy family', the outward displays of perfection.

I had very close family friends. Our children grew up together. The wife was stunning - clever, pretty, gorgeous clothes..... her husband was equally wonderful. Both had great jobs, holidays. Their kids are gorgeous, clever, well behaved. I couldn't believe it when they announced they were divorcing. They seemed so perfect for each other, so happy, so sorted. But so much had been happening behind closed doors that I had no clue about.

Focus on you, your family and on the love between you. That's what is most important. Stop envying people you really don't know as well as you think you do.

And even if there are people out there who seem to have it all - who cares. Focus on you and your own family. That's what really matters.

I know a group like this. Not with the kind of money the group you follow have, but they’re all reasonably comfortable from what I’ve seen and know to be true.

However I also know a couple of relatives and friends on the periphery of that group. And they confirmed what I thought myself. School days, play dates, weekends away, holidays, etc. All with the same group. I can think of nothing worse. Everyone needs a break from each other at some point.

Plus I also know that not all the men particularly like each other, and I guess you could asume it’s all driven by their partners and the kids friendships. And the need to keep up the show of that perfect ‘we’re so lucky we’re so happy’ Instagrammable life.

I used to feel the same way when I see things like that on SM. But over time I realize that many of these people have things simmering beneath the surface and things aren’t all gooey and perfect as they seem.

In the U. K or abroad? Everyone will suffer with the cost of living crisis especially if they own restaurants... May be a different story come October with more energy hikes.. They may well want your life then... Swings & roundabouts

Don't be fooled. There will be Lenny of debt and divorce and all the usual stuff, it's just better camouflaged.

Work hard or marry well.

I had a close friend whose life looked amazing on FB/Instagram, I also knew quite a lot about her and tbh the whole image thing was BS but she was desperate that people admire her and her “perfect family”. I dumped her when she did something that showed her true colours but of course she denied it. Enjoy your own life, comparison is the thief of joy,

This!!!

If they have all the villas and restaurants I can imagine there is a heap of debt to finance it all.

In life I've learnt those who are quiet about their money have the most.

They're really not. There are some people on Instagram that show how they get the 'perfect shot'. It's all staged.

YABU for believing this. No one is perfect, and SM is fake.

Delete your account and do something more positive with the time. You're feeding your own unhappiness and potentially damaging your own mental health.

Tbh I really don't like the idea of having to keep up with wealthy friends and go on all these holidays and mini breaks en masse, trying to prevent my kids from bickering for fear they would show me up. The pressure of expectations, the group politics would be unbearable for me. But if this is really what you aspire to then go grab it... make some new friends, organise these exhausting trips, go to the gym every day to achieve Instagram perfection.

'Never compare the inside of your house to the outside of someone else's house'. You never really know what goes on behind their doors. How do you really know if they're truly living their best life? Because of an image or two on Insta? You say friends of friends? So you don't know them personally? All the time you're looking at them on social media, you're giving yourself unnecessary stress and the FOMO effect is so dangerous to ones mental health. Don't do it to yourself.

Yes I know people like this, my husbands friends - but it’s mostly a facade, very week marriages and lots of issues behind the scenes.

That actually sounds a bit stifling, but either way it’s not going to do you any good to hanker after someone else’s life. Get off Instagram.

I used to be really envious of my best friend and her other best friend, who seems to have this life. That was until my friend revealed her friends husband get a pit “punchy” when he’s had a few drinks. Now every time I see photos of them having some wonderful get together with their group and everybody is drinking and having a fab time, I can’t help but wonder how her night really ends.

I'd get off social media. Since when was having loads of kids living the dream anyway? I'd be at my wits end unless i had a nanny.