to have had a go at my PIL about a present for our DS from a BIL and SIL we don’t speak to

[Ezzy]

This is a bit of a long one but last year my BIL was getting married 4 months after us. We only invited 7 people to our wedding but PIL stuck their noses in trying to get us to invite DHs Auntie. We stood our ground and said we were having our wedding our way.

Anyway, a few months before BILs wedding they contacted us to say that whilst our DS was welcome to the wedding, they would rather he wasn?t there in the ceremony and could we discuss something (like them arranging a childminder) just for those 30 mins. I, personally believe that our DS should have been sat right at the front during our wedding ? yes, he babbled all the way through ours but that was cute and he wasn?t disruptive.

Anyway, I refused to discuss the wedding with them and just sent a regret card saying the 3 of us would not be going. They sent a short email thanking us for the regret card and that was that. A few days later I was quite drunk and sent an email to BIL and now wife (although pretended it was from my DH it was actually from me) explaining how horrible and selfish they were. When BIL now wife asked me not to contact her again I sent her a few more emails telling her how rude, selfish and pathetic she was, and how their wedding was a complete joke anyway.

To cut a long story short ? we have not spoken to them since. They sent DS some clothes this summer for his birthday, which he wore. However, at xmas they sent another present for him which my PIL gave him. I am outraged that they have passed on this present from these people when they excluded our DS from their wedding. DH had a go at PIL and they told him to grow up. I cannot understand why they can?t see how interfering and hurtful they?ve been.

your behaving like a spoilt brat.

you had your wedding your way, you included your child and found his bable charming.

he is not their child and they wanted THEIR wedding THEIR way.

quite frankly i have upmost respect for a couple who have sent a present to your son despite you behaving so badly.

if you were my SIL you would have had a lot more than an email asking you not to contact me

YABU, can't actually see what anyone has done wrong. Amazed BIL and SIL still generous enough to send your son a gift. PIL just want to keep the peace surely?

You seem a bit scary. Nasty emails? And why did you accept the first present but not the second? I think they sound quite forgiving and you a hypocrite regarding being allowed to sort out your own wedding but not they theirs. Are you a troll?

And maybe they can't see why you felt the need to be so rude to them.

I think you have behaved really badly, and your BIL and SIL have been very generous to still try and keep contact with you in the way they have.

Why was it right for you to have your wedding the way you wanted it, but not for them to want the same thing? Your son is not the centre of everyone's world, just yours.

You are being unreasonable.

Your wedding your choices. No aunties

Their wedding their choices. No children.

I guess your dh family didn't agree with your decision but they respected it, you should have respected their decision re their wedding.

You declined the invite, but why did you send those emails.

They are trying to keep in contact with your child.

YYABU.. infact you're being VERY unreasonable and disgustingly rude.

It was their wedding and they're entitled to invite who they like.. and like a lot of people, allowed to request children don't attend the ceremony.

your behaviour towards them has been atrocious and quite frankly i'm amazed they've sent your DS anything after the way you've behaved.

Accept it with good grace and get over yourself.

Is this a wind up?!

This is a joke right?

You send them abusive emails and they are being unreasonable for sending a gift for your DS?

Is this a wind up?

Troll

you are being compeltely and utterly unreasonable.

Its your behaviour in all of this that is appalling.

Your demand your own weeding, then refuse to respect your BIL for the weeding he wants, and then send abusive emails.

Your inlaws deserve to be commended for their kind actions in sending presents to your son.

You seriously need to rethink your attitude on this one.

whata great 1st post there Ezzy

YABU - I think present to your DS sounds like a peace offering. As for your numerous EMails "explaining" how horrible and selfish they were, well that just makes you sound a bit mad quite frankly.

surely a joke

Yes, you are being very unreasonable

I have a feeling that is all B S.
First post ?

Ohh, first post.

Nuff said.

You just don't get the class of troll these days that you used to ...

misdee
you beat me to it

YABU.

Horrible prima donna behaviour. A cute babbling child of the bride and groom is completely different to an irritating noise from someone elses child at your own wedding.

TBH you are lucky they are sending your DS anything after the way you have behaved.

yes Misdee i had an incling it may have been.

maybe we should put the troll food away now?

Trip trap - well let's bluddy hope so anyway

I am wondering if the person posting is the SIL of the prima donna though.

LOLOLOLOLOLOL

marvellous