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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

To dump DP for this?

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Thousandthingstosay · 03/06/2022 11:43

Been with DP a year. Been good and he's nice and kind and we have a lot in common.

But

If you ask him a question on anything he will give an answer as fact regardless of whether he knows the answer or not. He cannot seem to say "I don't know".

For example, I'll ask if you need a visa to go to a certain country and he'll say no when he doesn't know. Or has a friend accepted an invite for dinner or anything really. He says the answer he wants it to be.

We've had conversations about it and how I feel I can't trust anything he says anymore as I'm always thinking 'but is that true'.

He can't explain why he does it.

It happened again today over something trivial and I just think 'fuck this'. Cannot be arsed.

AIBU?

OP posts:

grapewines · 03/06/2022 20:28

AnuSTart · 03/06/2022 17:37

I tested this the other day with my forever knowing everything DP.
I told him how I'm attending a conference in Münich on data privacy in October and that the state minister for data privacy will be giving an address.

Oh yea, he said, poor you. That dude is a waste of space and he has no clue about data privacy.

He is a woman.

Fucks sake

This sounds so unattractive to me. I wouldn't be able to take a person like this seriously let alone trust them about anything.

Original poster

Thousandthingstosay · 04/06/2022 22:08

Well, thanks for the replies everyone. Spoke to him today and explained my reasons. Don't think he really understood and was mumbling a lot of defensive stuff about overthinking.

Time to move on.

OP posts:

EmmaH2022 · 04/06/2022 23:08

OP did you actually end it?
I am also baffled by people who can’t say “I don’t know”. Like it’s upsetting their illusion that they aren’t god.

Sometimeswinning · 04/06/2022 23:34

This is my dh!! He'll say stuff to our children and I'll be sat there and have to say, well that's not true! I do find it endearing I guess. He likes his answer so much it must be true. I'm just always there with Google to piss him off! I definitely have not found it an issue for us. In fact your post has just flagged to me that it's obviously a thing!

Hawkins001 · 04/06/2022 23:43

My usual when I'm not sure of x is to ask , this may be a daft question etc, then it helps me understand and learn more, rather than just assuming I know the answer.

SlatsandFlaps · 05/06/2022 05:24

Outwiththenorm · 03/06/2022 12:32

That does sound infuriating though my DH has the opposite problem and refuses to speculate on absolutely anything if he isn’t 100% sure of the answer. ‘Who do you think will win blah blah?’ ‘I don’t know.’ It makes for short conversations 🙄 I love a bit of ‘ooh maybe this or that’ chat.

Ohhh I hate it when people answer that sort of question with that very answer! I respond with "No I wasn't asking you who will win, I'm asking you who you think was good enough to win!!"

Avastmehearties · 05/06/2022 07:15

Thousandthingstosay · 04/06/2022 22:08

Well, thanks for the replies everyone. Spoke to him today and explained my reasons. Don't think he really understood and was mumbling a lot of defensive stuff about overthinking.

Time to move on.

Urgh so this is you overthinking, not him bulls hitting (for whatever reason)? See that would make my mind up for me!

Andrutica · 05/06/2022 09:37

Yep, annoying AF. Imagine having kids with this man and him making shit up everytime your kid would ask him something….
I would end it.

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