He says I’m fat

[Newmumoct20]

So today and this week, a new thing…. I’m fat, I need to loose my tummy, I’m as fat as his ex and he told her she needed to loose weight too, I walk around looking like I’m pregnant, he still fancies me but that’s cos he loves me… I’m in pieces. Yes I’m overweight, yes I comfort eat and I have IBS and I’m bloated all the time but I didn’t think someone I love could be so cruel. He’s says he’s telling me for my own good 🥲I want to give up

Well OP at least you can lose the weight if you want to, this bellend will always be a rude, manipulative c*ntface.

Ditch him, you deserve better. The only thing bloated is his sense of self worth.

She's being bullied and ripped apart by her own husband. She could be 49 stone and it wouldn't matter.
You're being an apologist for an abusive shit, which makes you as bad.

The only person who is worth your love and your time is you OP. Don't be so cruel to yourself, don't punish yourself, if you want to lose the weight do it for you no one else. He's not worth all this heartbreak.

Heartache*

Oh sweetheart x.

he is a dick. You know it, I know it. You just need recognition I think.

You wouldn’t dream of saying that to him even if you thought it. That’s why you are so upset. You’re upset because you can’t get your head around why he would to you.

I can tell you why. He is a shallow twat.

Please tell me he gorgeous with a six pack, has a huge cock and knows what to do with it, amazing father, helps with housework, washing, childcare, cooking?… no?…

as previous posters have said, only weight you need to loose is him. X

Honestly@eddiemairswife , that's it a nice way to be supportive- it doesn't matter- he may have a point , he may not - but there's a way of him saying it and being supportive - I've seen women post who are late 40s and size 12 and 10 stone having 15 stone slightly porky partners saying stuff like this too- so I never presume.

OP he doesn't deserve you.

You sound really lovely, people don't think like him.

Do you judge peoples bodies on a daily basis? I doubt it only insecure tools make rude assumptions about others.

He is a hurtful shallow dick, he is deliberately trying to be hurtful.

You deserve so much more. 💓

I want to keep things together for our child, but I don’t know how much more I can take
Is this what you want to teach your child about how to treat others? Or be treated? Is it ok to teach your child that this is what a relationship should look like? What you are modelling will be their 'normal'. Do you not think you are doing them a grave disservice?

Tell him he's plug ugly.

How will that help?

Op post about your relationship as a whole in the relationships board where you’ll get better advice on how to leave someone who is treating you so badly. Do it so your child doesn’t grow up thinking this is how men should treat women.

I really hope he leaves you for a skinny minny as he'd be doing you a huge favour. This isn't about your weight. You need help to get out of this dreadful relationship for your child's sake at least. Please do something!

I think the only thing for it is to put veet in his shampoo op.

What a dick

Of course your confidence is in bits. Look at the utter areshole you’re with and how he treats you.

a lot of my IBS was stress and anxiety related - the minute I stoped tip toeing around my exP needs and wants and desires for how I should behave, dress and act… IBS cleared up.

what would you do if you knew the stem of your anxiety etc is him. And the IBS flares up because of your anxiety?

you could be single and happier. The best happiest mum. Your very best self. What’s stopping you.

There are ways snd means of highlighting concerns about health to someone you love, what he did wasn't it.
No-one deserves to be spoken to or treated like that and I don't think it's over the top to say it's akin to emotional abuse as your DP he will be aware of your anxiety and confidence levels and purposely doing this to knock you even further is appalling.
It is hard, particularly when you have children, but unhappy parents make for miserable children. You owe yourself more and you deserve better. Believe it and tell him to fuck off.

If you ever lose weight, do it for yourself,not for a man who's love is conditional. You don't necessarily need to lose weight to work on your confidence.

Maybe you are comfort eating because your partners a dick who makes you feel shit.

We had a baby around the same time judging by your username. I know that desire to keep it together for the baby but you have to look after you. He sounds very mean. Do you want to lose weight? I bet you wouldn't comfort eat so much without his criticism getting you down.

Its 2 different things a loved one talking to you about your weight as a concern and a loved one using your weight against you as a weapon to hurt you and shame you. You can easily see that is doing the second one.

The good lord on a bike!
Saying "You're fat" is a statement designed to undermine a person 's self esteem. It states they have slipped over some imaginary line of acceptable into unacceptable. It's not a knowledgeable statement about health.

Why does this man want to undermine your self esteem? There is no good reason. LTB.

Exactly this.

Maybe you could lose a shit ton of weight about 15 stone!(Him) I doubt hes exactly an Oil Painting himself. Tell him to jog on and do one .For what its worth most women in UK are size 16 plus (including me!) Lucky girl his ex .Now hes having 2 exes instead of one!

I strongly suspect the nasty cunt is the cause of most of your problems.

Bog off!

OP doesn't need to answer that stupid question.

OP, you need to seriously consider dumping this arsewipe. Your children do not need to see this sorry example of a relationship.

I wonder if he told his ex what a fatty she was and then found himself dumped? It's perfectly possible. Ask yourself that and make preparations to do similar. You are worth far better than this.

Tell him he’s ugly if he says it again.

Or eat him.