Cut on DS chin, DH blames me

[Sixsmith]

7 yo DS comes in our bed coupla days ago, DH already up and at work, he starts early. DS decides to climb in the bottom of the bed, under the quilt and grapples with my legs. I wriggle out of it and my toenail catches his chin and leaves a scratch. I catch hell from DH for not "being more careful". I don't really see how it's my fault but fair enough. This morning, DS comes in and jumps right on me. Don't get me wrong, I love DS coming in and I love our morning cuddles. That's not the issue. When he jumped, his chin caught a button on the quilt and took the scab off. DH goes mental saying I'm irresponsible and not being careful. I don't see what I could have done other than woke up an hour before DS and prepared a fully padded cell for his arrival.

He’s 7. Your DH is massively overreacting. Is he like this about other things OP?

frankly? your DH is a knob and your 7 year old is the one being careless, has DH remonstrated with him?

Does he often gaslight you?

You dh is being ridiculous
Doe he often act like a prick?

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Does it even matter? It's a small scratch on a 7 yr old, they have scratches and bruises all the time.

Does your DH have odd ideas about parenting and risk?

Your Dh sounds like a joy!

This is a classic 'I never do that bit of parenting, but if I did ever do it I'd do it so much better than you.'

Did your son hear your husbands reaction to you OP? I'd be much more concerned about that than an innocent accident that happens all the time when you have kids!

He's an idiot.

He's being completely ridiculous. Did he have a go at you in front of your DS?

Bloody hell he sounds awful OP!

Make a mental note. When... When ds has another 'mishap' with dh around you def throw it right back. What a twat.

Did you deliberately scratch DS with your toe? I doubt it.

Did you pull the duvet deliberately so that the button would catch under DS's chin and remove the scab? I VERY much doubt it.

Is DH jealous that DS is having fun and being boisterous with you? I wonder if there is something in that rather than anything to do with the injuries themselves?

But I agree with others, he needs to get cross with DS for being careless if he's going to be cross with anyone (and to be clear, I don't think there's a need to be cross with anyone as small accidents happen with DCs, it's how they learn to take more care, and not have bigger accidents later on. You CAN'T make a padded cell for them or how will they ever learn to look after themselves and be aware of potential dangers).

I used to be COVERED in bruises, cuts, scabs, scabs torn off and bleeding again etc when I was young. But I have never yet broken a bone and I am still having lots of adventures (with a bit of care) now nearing my 50s. DF gave me safety boots (steel capped) for cutting the grass but otherwise let me get on with things, DM had a well stocked 1st aid kit.

Your husband is setting a horrible example for your son, in many ways. What a prick.

Yes, your DH sounds like he has a personality disorder, this it totally not normal. If it happened in my house myself no one would bet an eyelid. At worst we would have a word with the child about perhaps being more careful and that would literally be it.

A complete over reaction. It was an accident!

At the moment DS has a bruised toe a cut in his mouth, and he's just got over a black eye acquired in football training.
I would never consider anyone including DS responsible for this, it is just part of a normal childhood.

Your dh sounds awful, what a nasty man.

I love you guys, this is just what I needed. Thank you

Does he have health anxiety or similar? (In which case he should seek help) Or is this just another stick to beat you with because everything you do is wrong?

He's 7 ffs! If he's still got all his limbs at the end of the day that's a win.

My dd was a bridesmaid at my sisters wedding when she was 7. I'd managed to keep her injury free for weeks. The day of the wedding she ran, full speed, into an open door. All the wedding photos show her with a mahoosive black eye. At that age I couldn't go a week without an injury of some sort.

You should is hugely over reacting

In this instance, does DH stand for dickhead? You don't need to put up with this.

Is he a dickhead over other issues ?