Cut on DS chin, DH blames me

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7 yo DS comes in our bed coupla days ago, DH already up and at work, he starts early. DS decides to climb in the bottom of the bed, under the quilt and grapples with my legs. I wriggle out of it and my toenail catches his chin and leaves a scratch. I catch hell from DH for not "being more careful". I don't really see how it's my fault but fair enough. This morning, DS comes in and jumps right on me. Don't get me wrong, I love DS coming in and I love our morning cuddles. That's not the issue. When he jumped, his chin caught a button on the quilt and took the scab off. DH goes mental saying I'm irresponsible and not being careful. I don't see what I could have done other than woke up an hour before DS and prepared a fully padded cell for his arrival.

Your DH is being a twonk.

Kids that age get its, grazes and bruises all the time. I bet your 7 year old gets various knocks during the day at school too. Does DH go marching in blaming the teachers for carelessness?

Tell him to bugger off. There'll be some sort of incident on his watch eventually, and you can chuck it right back at him.

It’s just a scratch? What’s he like about your son doing other things, like playing on a park or climbing trees? Kids get small scratches all the time.

Even if you were unreasonably careless, that's such an extreme reaction to a scratch on a 7yo. Is your DH OK? Is your DS, if this the kind of worrying that's done a out him?

Obviously DH is being ridiculous, but so ridiculous I think I'd be worried for the welfare of all concerned.

My 6 year old looks like he's been beaten with chains and none of us have any idea how he got most of his myriad bruises. Plus he is just the right height to get elbowed in the face multiple times a day as he ninjas up behind me while I'm cooking etc. It's part of being/having kids- does he really think it's possible to raise a child that never gets injured?

OP, my XH blamed me because our nursery aged toddler seemed to catch a cold from nursery every other month even though it's the natural order of things.

Hence why he's my XH.

He blamed assinine things on me all the time.

Our son once just walked straight into a radiator and got a potato on his head, new walker, 12 month old, couldn't stop himself. I got blamed for that as well because I didn't polish my crystal ball that morning so obviously didn't foresee it happening.

Your husband sounds nasty and mean and vindictive. Do yourself a favour love, because he's not going to change. His behaviour gives him power in this dynamic. You need to take that power back and put yourself first.

Your DH is being ridiculously precious. When ds was 7 there was barely an inch of him that didn’t have a bruise, a scab, a graze, mud or biro on it.

Prince Louis's waving frantically out of a carriage today with a lengthy scratch on his arm.
They're children, it's normal.

2 ds here and my friends joke I must have a named chair in A and E!! They hurt themselves, it is no one’s fault it is just kids being kids.

wtf? Your son jumps on top of you and hurts himself and that's your fault? How and why? Your DH is a dickhead and I'd be really angry with the insinuation that you're hurting your child

Your husband needs to be educated about the reality of raising a normal active child-maybe you should go away for a week and leave him in sole charge.

Not even read the full thread but @OwlinaTree I'm screenshotting this for next time my ex is giving me a hard time over nothing

Your husband sounds horrible. Is he?

He's an idiot!! Is he like this about other things too?

Hes 7, you cant wrap kids in cotton wool and a couple of scrapes and scratches is not the end of the world.

Is your husband generally a very anxious person? This screams of some sort of health anxiety to me.

When I was 7 I fell backwards off a 6 foot wall and split my head open and bit both sides of my tongue. Children have accidents, your dh needs to chill a small bit or he will turn your dc into an anxious wreck

Your dh either has an anxiety issue or he's just plain nasty, only you know which it is.

He's going to turn your son into someone who freaks out whenever he is scratched or bleeds a bit.
He gets a small cut, small scab, little dab of blood and his dad is angry and shouting at his mum. He is going to end up really worried about getting bumps and scrapes because dad will shout at mum.

It's a really bad example to be setting.

This is ridiculous.

Your DS sounds like a clumsy pony. My 5yo is similar. We end each day with a new collection of bruises, scrapes and cuts and quite often I start the morning winded from being jumped on or accidentally elbowed or kicked.

Short of tying him up or keeping him in a straightjacket (your DS, though I can see how it would be tempting to gag your "DH" and lock him in a cupboard), there's not a lot you can do about it. At some stage, he'll start to listen when you shout "Walk, don't run!" and will look before he leaps, and then he'll get less injuries.