Had a fight with DH

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We are always bickering etc but yesterday was awful. I know we are both to blame to not looking for validation just looking for some support. I feel ignored by DH all the time, he doesn’t talk to me and doesn’t really get involved with anything to do with our kids (3 and 5) I do everything.

So yesterday after an exhausting day I was making kids meal and me and DH were having a takeaway meal we’ve never had before I asked him if he could read the back and tell me what goes in oven and what in microwave, the kids were crying, I was hungry, and he decides to be a joker and waves the rice infrint of my face whilst I’m cooking saying “this is rice”, then waving another part of the meal in my face. I just lost it and things just escalated with him throwing the food across the kitchen. I’m really fed up. I can’t live like this anymore.

Its understandable that your immediate thought is 'I can't move', but people do do this. I'm not saying it's easy,but it will almost certainly be easier than living like this. Even if it requires a drop in living standards, it will be worth it. Try to think objectively and calmly about your possible options. But cut yourself some slack, as your obviously upset. There's alternative future for you, this will pass.

Your kids do not need to grow up seeing this. Leave him. You can do it. Put your babies first.

have you spoken to. him about his lack of existence in family life and if so what does he say?

I’m sure he’s perfectly capable of ordering a takeaway too.

Why the hell would you not feed the kids before they were crying with hunger, also you flipping out at him infront of the kids is not on at all and neither is him throwing shit sounds like you both need to grow up and separate your kids don't need to see that shit ever if you can't keep your head on leave the room count to ten or 100 whatever you need to do to calm yourself down enough to be civil