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Feeling sad and suicidal

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Namechangefeelingdown · 30/05/2022 21:41

I'm so sad. I have a 3yo. I'm a lone parent. His dad abused us both. Raising my beautiful son on my own. Living with a family member and have been for 3 years as can't afford rent. Couldn't go on the council housing list as owned a house with my ex. He refused to sell or buy me out and it took me 3 years to get my name off it. Hardly any equity which went on paying off debts. I earn 30k a year, not bad, but childcare nearly 1k a year and because I earn an OK wage I don't get much universal credit. I pay rent for lodgings every month but because I am with a family member I can't claim UC for it. Finally applied for council housing 6 weeks ago but heard nothing since. Likely I won't be in a high band. I've shared 1 bedroom and a bed with my child for 3 years but apparently not overcrowded as I don't lack 2 or more bedrooms. I need to move out. I'm severely depressed. I'm exhausted. I can't afford to rent and have debts I pay off every month. I would never harm myself but I think about it every day and it is getting me down. I don't know what to do anymore. I am a brilliant mum. I do everything for my child. I just don't know what to do as I can't afford to move out and just don't want to live in this horrible situation anymore. I just want a night on my own. Just once. I want my own bed, and space, and a living room I can walk through and use without feeling awkward.

ImaniMumsnet · 30/05/2022 21:57

Hello OP, we are really sorry to hear you are feeling this way.
We hope you don't mind, but when these threads are flagged up to us we usually add a link to our Mental Health resources. You can also go to the Samaritans website
or email them on [email protected]. Support from other Mumsnetters is great and we really hope you will be able to take some comfort from your fellow posters, but as other MNers will tell you, it's really a good idea to seek real-life help and support as well.

We also like to remind everyone that, although we're awed daily by the astonishing support our members give each other through life's trickier twists and turns, we'd always caution anyone never to give more of themselves to another poster, emotionally or financially, than they can afford to spare.

Some further support links:

NHS: Where to get urgent help for mental health
NHS: Looking after your mental health
MIND: Coping with mental health problems during coronavirus

CALM: The Campaign Against Living Miserably
NHS: Help for suicidal thoughts

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