I have a freelancing DH who doesn't earn much money - that's normally fine because we contribute equally and we have everything we need.
Only problem is we have a small flat (mine which I bought alone when we were dating pre-marriage), and I WFH there. My company has an office but I prefer to WFH so that I can go quickly to collect our DD from nursery at 4.30pm. He does drop-off in the morning and then sometimes goes to work in the public library.
My issue is that he has been saying for years now that he'd get an office but reality is he can't afford one and there's not much available nearby. So he comes home from drop-off around 9.30am and then proceeds to make breakfast, exercise, do random things often involving coming into my 'office' (DD's bedroom) which really breaks my concentration. Then I have to stop working at 4.30pm.
Sometimes he uses the 'office' at home but then I'm working on the sofa which is even worse when he wanders out to make a big breakfast, make comments etc which also break my concentration.
After years of this I am losing my patience. Work is really busy and I've said a million times to him that I need the house quiet and empty to work. He feels like I am kicking him out because the flat is 'mine' and he wants to be able to use the house as a home throughout the day. But then I'd have to go into the office and I'd have to stop work even earlier to get back to the nursery on time for DD.
Who is being unreasonable and how should we resolve this? I'm starting to really resent him.