Husband thinks I've lost my mind

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Last night I was putting DD to bed, she's 3m. I fed her, then popped her on my shoulder and cuddled her off to sleep. DH came in to bed just as I was putting her down. She's in the next-to-me so I do the transfer from sitting on my bit of the bed rather than standing. I put her down and turned round to find him looking at me like I'd just done the weirdest thing in the world.

I do the transfer the same way every night - I bounce her gently against my shoulder while very very slowly leaning further and further over into the cot, then when she's lying on the mattress I stay with my body against hers (my face pressed into the mattress) for a minute or so, to make sure she doesn't startle awake. It is not comfy, it takes a long time and im sure it looks ridiculous, but it works.

DH has apparently somehow never seen me do this before, and thinks it is an insane thing for me to be doing 4+ times a night. I asked him how he does it then, and he gave me that look again and said "I wait until she's asleep and then I just put her in the cot. Like a normal person."

THIS DOES NOT WORK FOR ME. Is my husband magic or am I some sort of lunatic making my life much harder than it needs to be? Or is it Secret Option 3, my DD is playing silly buggers with me and having a good old chuckle with DH at my expense?

Does anyone else have to perform a weird intricate physical ritual to get their babies into the cot (YANBU) or are you all "normal people" like my husband (YABU)?

It's easier for Dads to put babies down as they don't smell of milk like Mum so they don't have the same separation when he puts them down.

So no he isn't some amazing baby whisperer, your baby is just not as fussed about separating from him.

Tell him that if you want to burst his bubble!

To be fair, Op has said she has toddler too so I doubt she's planning to continue settling her child like this forever! I think it sounds like a fairly normal thing to do.

I had a sister six years younger than me and when she’d fallen asleep, my mum would give her to me to take upstairs. Up I went, blobbed her into the cot, sorted. I do think of this whenever people start relating their intricate rituals for putting babies to sleep. My mum was a terrible mum but my sister never woke up once she’d fallen asleep, having been used to being put down like a sack of potatoes by a six year old.

Ha ha this is quite funny. I was thinking it might be the milky smell, or he might be waiting longer so she is in deeper sleep and therefore less likely to wake up? Who knows! My DH and I also do things differently, each one of us confident that our method works best 😂

Haha I think your method is ever so slightly weird, but also very very cute. The things we do for our kids ay? 😂

The OP was being jokey, as was her husband. He didn’t upset her, she just came on here to check norms, and, ya know, make conversation..

I'm still in awe either of you can do this, ours wouldn't stay asleep for either of us!

My two year old calls BS on your hubby!!! I absolutely put him down as if he is a ticking bomb body to body and hover!!😅😅😅

The Op was being jokey as was her husband

I was also being jokey when I advised telling her dh to bugger off .Obviously I wasn't suggesting he pack up and leave the premises. Jeez.

My husband had the same magic powers. I did not.

My DP could just lower DS into his cot once asleep whereas he would always wake up for me, so I did the weird slow sleep dance getting him down too.

whatever you do and however you do it think about the following: will you be able/happy to do the same thing when s/he is 6m, 12m, 18m, 24m old?
I did some silly routines and my friend (with 2 kids at the time) asked me this. :)
she had a very good point, as I -later- found out.

She doesn't care as much about being seperated from him. That's why she doesn't mind. It's just biology. For most of her existence she was part of you!

Ha! Same here! I didn’t do all of that stuff, I may have rubbed her belly a little after dumping her in there but that’s about it 😂

?? She's not even 18 weeks. She's 3 months old.

It sounds like your DH has the magic touch, so he should put her down every time 🤣

So last night I tried plonking the baby down a la DH and was met with utter screaming outrage. DH watched, and expressed complete confusion as to why this happened when she's fine for him, I explained about the whole milky mummy cuddles thing and bless him I think his feelings are ever so slightly hurt! Babies are brutal.

Of course I'm right, I gave birth to her!

That's what I thought too 🤣🤣🤣

'Babies are brutal'

Cheeky DH's get what they deserve! 'Like a normal person' <slap>

🤣🤣

Sorry, but this is such bollocks