Hi everyone, I'm a sahm of a 2 year old. I don't work because id be working to pay the nursery fees so I'll be waiting till she goes to school. Partner earns above the average so we don't get free hours.
Because he pays for the house, food.. everything he seems to think that my job to involves cleaning up after him. Im happy cleaning the house, doing the washing, doing the dishes but what I don't agree with is cleaning his wrappers he leaves 2 steps away from the bin. Picking the underwear he leaves on the floor after showers. Comeing down every night and havsing to put his used dishes, wrappers and drink bottles away so I don't have to wake up with lo to a mess. Throwing his dirty towels on the floor, misplacing stuff and not putting it back etc Even on weekends he won't LIFT a finger, all the mess lo makes is my mess!!!
He came home the other day and had a shower. He called me to fetch him a towel cuz there was none in bathroom, I got annoyed because he never checks before haveing 1. Anyway he relises I havnt done a wash today, I was haveing a down day. I had cleaned up a lot, been a mum and I the thought left me. He says Its because I've been sat on my arse all day, we argued about it and he still continued to think I do nothing.
I'm sick of everything I do being unappreciated. My job doesn't unclude being a full time mum to him. So I've said im going on strike, that I will clean the house, do the all the big jobs, wash the clothes etc but I will not be cleaning up after you, I will leave every wrapper to pile up, every dirty underwear will be left. I will wash what's in the washing basket, not what's scattered on the floors.
He says then I'm going on money strike. Says I'm not allowed anything, I'm not allowed an uber eats? It's completely different? I show him the wrapper he left, he says just theory it over there where u throw everything! I put HIS and my empty bottles etc ready to go out to the bins, but I'm the one who cleans it!! Am I being unreasonable? And if not how do I word the difference between cleaning the house and the mess after him, in a way he can understand?
I just feel like a naggy mum, I'm nit attracted to a son.