To want to take kids on holiday DP says no

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Not so much AIBU but am I being bonkers 😂..

Dc are 2 yrs old and 6 months both pandemic babies. I thought it would be nice to go away maybe mallorca this summer now things are opening up.

Dp says I am romanticising the idea and it will just be parenting elsewhere without all our stuff, in the heat, kids unsettled from routine, they are too young to appreciate it etc

AIBU to feel a bit disappointed? Anyone have any experience with going abroad with kids this young and was it hell or was it great!?!

Well, yes, holidays with kids still involves a bit of parenting but also it's an opportunity to make new memories and enjoy a slower pace for a week or two.

We did UK cottage type holidays til ours were old enough to take abroad without a buggy/carseat.

Yes I took my not yet one and not yet three year old to Spain. It was fine we had a good time, just don't expect them to stick to their usual routines, or if you want them to then you aren't going to be going out at night!

Never seen the point of taking children under 3 on overseas holidays personally.

Because the parents can still enjoy being overseas! Just thinking of the overseas holidays we did with babies and toddlers - we adults got to enjoy different cuisine, heat, swimming in warm seas, watersports… I actually really love UK holidays but some of those elements are a bit unreliable here!

I've travelled every summer for the last 18 years mine. When he was little I only did easy places like Spain or Canary Islands. I was on my own with him. After age 10 we started with Asia, America and currently we are in North Africa. It's fine when you have one adult per child so I think you'll be ok

I notice how a lot of the “it’s great, not a problem, taken mine round the world” replies are from people with one child.

It’s still possible to have a nice holiday with two little ones IMO but it’s definitely a whole different ball game from one.

At those ages, I agree with your partner.

I didn't really enjoy holidays when dc were little. All the parenting; none of the convenience. Older now so much more fun.

Me too.

The problem with two children is, it doubles the risk factor of issues. Double thr chance of a bug or teething or a bad phase. And if they both get the bug you have TWO to look after. Yoy have two to watch they don't come to harm. I only want very toddler / baby friendly holidays right now. And cheap holidays so at least I've not wasted loads of money if we have an awful time.

I agree with your DH! We’ve done holidays in the UK since the kids were small and it can be brilliant, but the car is full to the brim with stuff to make it easier - the idea of trying to pack everything we’d want to take to make our lives easier into a couple of suitcases for a plane makes me break out in hives! And being on a hot beach, unable to relax for 30 seconds because you have to have constant eyes on the kids doesn’t sound fun to me, it sounds hot and uncomfortable and stressful 😂

I think travelling with kids is great and I have three. And was a single parent for several years when I had two. My idea of holidays is seeing sights, attractions, history, hiking, exploring, trying new foods, meeting new people. All of these can be done with the kids and it’s lovely to see them experience new things. The only thing I absolutely don’t do having had bad times with them is hotels. Hotel rooms that accommodate three kids are difficult to find and often rubbish. So we nearly always go with tents, caravans, hostels, or self contained accommodation if the budget will stretch. The kids have been abroad by plane, ferry, car and train and we’ve had lots of lovely times.

I love travel, but flying is a PITA with very young children (I had to do it as all my family live in another country) and they habe a remarkable ability to come down with some random bug halfway through a hol or whatever. At that age I would go with a nice relaxed self-catering week somewhere within a few hours drive (maybe stretch to Ireland or the continent if you are handy for ferry ports?), so you can chuck the mountains of baby crap in the boot without stressing. We had some really nice holidays like that when ours were tiny. Save Majorca up for a few years.

He is right to an extent in that you will still be feeding, clothing, doing nappy changes, naps ,bedtime all to consider. However I would say if you change your mindset it would be fine. You can't expect it to be the same holiday pre kids, post. It will be different. I haven't taken mine abroad yet but we do lots of weekends away in the UK. I'd book it and go.

I should also mention that I have 3 kids 6, 4 and 8 months.

See if there is any babysitting service or kids club where you can drop them off for a morning, that might make it more enjoyable.

I do agree it is the same but a different location however, there will be a pool, a beach, other children to play and interact with. There are lots of instagram/Youtube videos on how to make the beach safe and fun with little ones. It won't be a relaxing holiday unless you shift pattern it so one parent takes on two children for an hour or two whilst the other completely chills. Only works if both parents will do that.

Don't go self catering, definitely all inclusive so that all the food is taken care of.