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AIBU?

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He asked me for a drink

71 replies

knitteddollblue · 25/05/2022 15:26

My ex boyfriend who dumped me wished to remain friends. He said he did not have feelings for me anymore. I did not speak to him really after that.

He has now messaged me to meet up to go for a drink next week.

Why?

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knitteddollblue · 25/05/2022 19:03

CurlyCew · 25/05/2022 18:43

I'd ignore the message and see how much he begs.... But I wouldn't meet him again either.

We are not here to appease men, to make them happy, to pander to their whims, to boost their egos and so on. He left you, fuck him.

Lol im just going to ignore it i think / x x

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ladydimitrescu · 25/05/2022 19:06

GucciPearls · 25/05/2022 18:23

A bunch of brown women taking the piss, lovely.

sorry about the arrogant sods OP.

who knows what he wants? Maybe for a shag but surely he could just invite you over to “talk” or come over to your house if it was just for that. He might want to rekindle. He might just need someone to talk to.

im sure you will do the right thing x

Look at you with the worst possible typo, when you were on such a high, high horse 😅

WomanStanleyWoman2 · 25/05/2022 19:11

GucciPearls · 25/05/2022 18:24

fuck me is there any need for replies like this. She just wants to talk it out ffs.

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Talk WHAT out though? There’s nothing to talk out.

I’m not sure what you think the need for your reply is either, frankly.

Newestname002 · 25/05/2022 19:14

@knitteddollblue

I was weird he broke up out the blue I thought things were fine but what can you do? So I just said it is fine you do you and never bothered him agAin.

So you didn't plead or cry but just accepted it and mentally waved him off? Maybe that wasn't the reaction he was expecting so he'd like another try? 🌹

Unanananana · 25/05/2022 19:20

I'd be like- 'who is this?'

He wants a shag. What else could it possibly be?

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knitteddollblue · 25/05/2022 19:43

Newestname002 · 25/05/2022 19:14

@knitteddollblue

I was weird he broke up out the blue I thought things were fine but what can you do? So I just said it is fine you do you and never bothered him agAin.

So you didn't plead or cry but just accepted it and mentally waved him off? Maybe that wasn't the reaction he was expecting so he'd like another try? 🌹

Why would i plead and cry?? I just said you should have phoned me to clear the air but if thats how you chose to end it (like a 18 year old) than so be it

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knitteddollblue · 25/05/2022 19:44

Unanananana · 25/05/2022 19:20

I'd be like- 'who is this?'

He wants a shag. What else could it possibly be?

Yes i think so

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knitteddollblue · 25/05/2022 19:45

Newestname002 · 25/05/2022 19:14

@knitteddollblue

I was weird he broke up out the blue I thought things were fine but what can you do? So I just said it is fine you do you and never bothered him agAin.

So you didn't plead or cry but just accepted it and mentally waved him off? Maybe that wasn't the reaction he was expecting so he'd like another try? 🌹

I told him to 'grow up' . He dumped me by text hes 40 lol

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EurovisionTragic · 25/05/2022 20:09

Arrange drink, don’t turn up.

EurovisionTragic · 25/05/2022 20:10

40 and dumped you by text?
what a twat.

ILoveMyLifeToday · 25/05/2022 20:19

Definitely wants a shag. It didn't work out with whoever he has been seeing and will want a quick ego boost.

FinallyHere · 25/05/2022 20:24

Block and ignore.

If you have to answer say 'who is this' because you deleted his. Umber when he dumped you, right?

littleburn · 25/05/2022 21:47

Don't even reply. He's tugging on the chain to see if you're still at the end of it. Don't give him the satisfaction. Your silence will speak volumes.

Tiani4 · 26/05/2022 00:07

@knitteddollblue
Don't really know why this is AIBU as he dumped you via text so

  • no you don't need to reply and
  • no he's not your bf nor your friend
  • so no you don't need to meet up with him " for a drink"

I Read all your posts op and Hope you RTFT of super supportive PPs advice...

Maybe you can just stop engaging with him and block him.

I wouldn't entertain any texts from him not give him any head space now.

He's done he's gone and you owe him nothing , not even a reply

Block the idiot and move in with your life x

KatherineJaneway · 26/05/2022 06:45

I'd meet up with him to get answers personally.

Johnnysgirl · 26/05/2022 09:28

KatherineJaneway · 26/05/2022 06:45

I'd meet up with him to get answers personally.

Only if you still give a toss. Why would you?

Aussiegirl123456 · 26/05/2022 09:56

I’d write back “who is this”?

Aussiegirl123456 · 26/05/2022 09:57

Then when he responds with who he is, I’d just write back “oh” and never respond ever again.

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knitteddollblue · 26/05/2022 09:59

KatherineJaneway · 26/05/2022 06:45

I'd meet up with him to get answers personally.

Not sure what he can really say. I mean he changed his mind about me thats fine but to dump me by text like a school boy?? He could have at least called me. He knows my character i would have understood

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knitteddollblue · 26/05/2022 09:59

Aussiegirl123456 · 26/05/2022 09:56

I’d write back “who is this”?

He knows i will know its him

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WalkWithDignityAndPride · 26/05/2022 10:00

GucciPearls · 25/05/2022 18:23

A bunch of brown women taking the piss, lovely.

sorry about the arrogant sods OP.

who knows what he wants? Maybe for a shag but surely he could just invite you over to “talk” or come over to your house if it was just for that. He might want to rekindle. He might just need someone to talk to.

im sure you will do the right thing x

Racist ;)

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