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Camping without dp

27 replies

Flamingle18 · 25/05/2022 08:31

I usually have to work most of the school holidays with being self employed but after a tough few months (bereavement) I decided to take this coming half term off. We recently bought a new tent so I booked a campsite not too far away from home to test it out and also it's near a big walk that my ds really wants to do. All booked and paid for, going this Sunday. It was going to be ds and I but then dp managed to get time off and was coming too. Yesterday he tested positive for Covid and said he's going to be too ill to come or to do the walk and that I should defer the booking until later in the year. The thing is, I haven't got the money to go and book something else for ds for next week and I don't want to have taken time off unpaid to stay at home. Also next school holidays isn't until the end of July so it's a long wait and we don't want to go on a Friday-Sunday as it's a very popular tourist spot and wouldn't be able to go until after school. WIBU to just go without dp?

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Mally100 · 25/05/2022 09:47

Yanbu. You have already booked and paid for the trip, booked time off and most of all I'm sure your ds is very excited. Your dp wasn't initially going to come anyway. I think you should go, you have had a tough time of late and a break would be good.

MegBusset · 25/05/2022 09:48

Yanbu! Go with DS, book another trip in the summer for DP to come along.

Shoxfordian · 25/05/2022 09:49

Don’t defer the booking; he wasn’t coming to start with anyway and he might feel better by Sunday in any event - go with your son anyway

BeardieWeirdie · 25/05/2022 09:50

Jealous bellend. Have a fab time with your son.

FirewomanSam · 25/05/2022 09:51

I would never ask my husband to change plans he was excited about because I was ill or unable to go (unless I was so terribly unwell that I needed him to stay home and help me, I guess) so I think you should definitely go and your partner should be encouraging you to do so. Go have a wonderful time!

ChristineCagney11 · 25/05/2022 09:54

Well depends how sick he is ?
Dose of man flu/barely any symptoms= go
Struggling desperately to breathe=stay
Enjoy your camping trip have a lovely time.

Mally100 · 25/05/2022 09:57

BeardieWeirdie · 25/05/2022 09:50

Jealous bellend. Have a fab time with your son.

This made me laugh but I agree.

DogsAndGin · 25/05/2022 10:04

YANBU. And also your DH may be well enough to come along, too. He doesn’t have to do the big walk. How does he know he’s still going to be too poorly in 4 days?

Flamingle18 · 25/05/2022 10:11

Thanks everyone! I did say you might be fine in a couple of days and he was saying he won't be up to the big walk. I've booked this campsite as it's near the start of the walk so I suggested he stays at the campsite or goes to the next village for dinner and a look round whilst we do the walk. He then said staying in a tent would probably hinder his recovery. I had to bite my tongue so I didn't say don't bloody come then 😁. He has form for over exaggerating when ill so I'm struggling to know if he is really bad!
I'm going to go unless he is obviously struggling a lot and we can go again in summer.

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sweeneytoddsrazor · 25/05/2022 10:33

Tell him fresh air is very helpful for his recovery.

What is the big walk? I love walking/hiking always looking for somewhere new.

Williamshatnershorses · 25/05/2022 10:39

Go. Do it. Have fun with your son.

Flamingle18 · 25/05/2022 10:46

@sweeneytoddsrazor it's Jacob's ladder and kinder downfall in Derbyshire. So many beautiful walks around there!

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Flamingle18 · 25/05/2022 10:47

Kinder scout

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Sexnotgender · 25/05/2022 10:52

Go! Unless he’s literally in hospital.

Enjoy.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 25/05/2022 10:53

Thank you, that is an area we are actually looking at as we have never been there, so nice to hear its lovely.

MegBusset · 25/05/2022 10:56

Ah that sounds lovely. Everyone in our house who's had Covid has been absolutely fine within 3-4 days btw. Have a great time 😊

Ducksurprise · 25/05/2022 10:56

Mally100 · 25/05/2022 09:57

This made me laugh but I agree.

And me! 😂Also agree.

Flamingle18 · 25/05/2022 10:59

Would it be too much to suggest he sleeps at the bell end of the tent? 🤣

Thank you, we are really looking forward to it! Our first air tent too 😊.

@sweeneytoddsrazor feel free to message if you want any recommendations or anything.

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catandcoffee · 25/05/2022 10:59

OP just go with your son... leave the adult to look after himself .
Have a lovely time.

Thebeastofsleep · 25/05/2022 11:09

This happened to us a few weeks ago - had a camping trip booked then DH got covid. Me and the kids went alone and had a great time, DH got to recover in peace. We do have another family trip booked though so he wasn't missing out on the only holiday of the year.

MagnoliatheMagnificent · 25/05/2022 11:14

Just go and leave him. He can blob about and watch tv in peace, you can have fun as planned! Tell him to call 999 if he's really bad... 😷
Besides do you and ds want Covid??

EL8888 · 25/05/2022 12:16

I would go without him. These things happen 🤷‍♀️

nearlyspringyay · 25/05/2022 12:19

He tested positive on Tuesday, you're not going until Sunday? Is he usually so over dramatic? Is he shuffling around in a dressing gown of doom?

Try and steer clear of him so you dont get it and absolutely go!

Circumferences · 25/05/2022 12:23

Ah we went up Kinder on Saturday! We went up Grindsbrook then across the top then down Jacobs ladder it was really really lovely.

Have a wonderful time, don't let anything get in your way!

Flamingle18 · 25/05/2022 12:24

He is very over dramatic! He was saying he might not be able to go on a trip with his parents next Wednesday 🤔! Dressing gown of doom will definitely be on!
We don’t live together so no risk of catching it unless he already had it at weekend when we saw each other. My tests are coming back negative so 🤞!

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