DS in changing rooms

[Whyarepeoplesomiserable]

We are members of a family sports club and the changing facilities available are as follows:

female general changing
female adults only
men general
men adults only
family changing

the family changing is something I only use when I’m with DH and more than one child as 1) it’s pretty grim - it’s basically 3 wet room cubicles/very slippery and 2) it makes sense for a mixed sex group/family changing together. usually if I’m just with DS (3 years old) or DS (1 year old) we go into female general. There are usually other children there 2 and it’s huge/dry/non slippery.

today in there with 3 year old DS this woman was very nasty and complained in front of us about him being in there to a member of staff, but in such a way that I wasn’t 100% sure she was talking about us. When she left I asked the staff member who said she was complaining but is just the type of person who complains about everything.

AIBU to think if she wants adults only she can go into adults only? Surely I’m not obliged to used the slippery, wet family
changing? I thought until 7 my boys were fine to be in changing with me

You were fine to be in there
She was a moaning cow

Yes moany cow (possibly one of MN's regulars ).

At 3 she was being daft!

I would complain about the state of the family changing though because people should be able to use that

3 and 1 year olds are fine in the womens.

Ok thank you it actually really upset me as she was loudly saying “people should really read the rules” etc. but then she got dressed in an absolutely bizarre fashion I’ve never seen before - pants, leggings, socks and trainers with no bra or top yet. Madness

i asked at reception and they had no idea about their rules or policy re changing room.

I don’t think they can change the family changing as it’s essentially 3 large cubicles with showers in so turns into a giant wet room

@FreedomDrops

😃

At 3 I don't understand why she was complaining at all!

But on the other hand I do understand if your facility actually has family changing I would expect you to use that as that's what it's there for. However, again, at 3 I don't think I'd have even thought about it.

She is ridiculous. Your child is 3. Some people will just complain about anything won't they 🙄

But on the other hand I do understand if your facility actually has family changing I would expect you to use that as that's what it's there for

I guess my point is if it’s obligatory to use family, just because you’re with children? The other thing is family is much smaller so what if it’s full? I would understand more if there weren’t also adults only

God Almighty he is only a baby at 3. She sounds nuts!

Ok these comments are making me feel a lot better, thank you!

You weren't wrong to have a 3 year old in there.
You are wrong to be so nasty about her clothes.
And it's time the rest of MN gave over with the misogynistic language about women.

It sounds fine to have been in "Female" with the kids given there's also "Female - adults only" for the other customer to have a kid free environment if she wants. I'd guess "Family" is for mixed sex adult groups with kids (like Mum, Dad, kids).

Using the female changing room with your 3 year old son is fine.

But at age 5 and over when there is a family room available, no.

It is not just about your needs OP. You need to think of others feelings too.

She's a crazy woman. You did nothing wrong, your sons are practically babies!

There's nothing for her to complain about. I wouldn't have a problem with a child of any age in the female changing room, but a three year old is only a baby really. The only one with the issue is her.

I don't think the OP was being nasty about her clothes, more surprised that anyone puts on their trainers before their bra!

you're not being unreasonable OP if she wants some only changing rooms they are available

I’m assuming she’s under the impression that ‘females general changing’ is for women and their daughters, so anyone with a son should be in the family changing. I think given your son is so young that she’s being a bit OTT but as there are family changing rooms I can see why she wouldn’t be expecting there to be young boys in the female changing rooms.

@PAFMO I think OP was saying she got dressed in a bizarre way (fashion), not that she didn't like her clothes/fashion. OP said she put her shoes on before her bra!

I'd guess "Family" is for mixed sex adult groups with kids (like Mum, Dad, kids)

this is my interpretation of the family changing room!

I don't think the OP was being nasty about her clothes, more surprised that anyone puts on their trainers before their bra!

exactly! I’ve never seen that before it was crazy 😃

It is not just about your needs OP. You need to think of others feelings too

but there is an adult only room? I love the adult only room - when I’m there alone I go in there and luxuriate in the child free zone😆

regardless of the other issues, if the floor in the family room is slippery they need to address it before there is an accident and their insurance takes a hit.

I have emailed the manager to get some clarity on exactly what the club rules are so I know for next time! Also have flagged the fact the family changing is very slippery and wet so they know/it’s clear my reasoning for not wanting to use it

@PAFMO

i wasnt being nasty about her clothes - I’ve never seen someone put clothes on in that order, men included.

A 3 and 1 year old baby is fine so she was unreasonable there, what does the order she put her clothes on have you do with anything? I get dressed in that order because if my hair is wet I don't like a wet t shirt. Some women dry their hair before putting a top on for that reason too.

Hardly madness.

You’re a better woman than I, OP. I’d have stuck my head out and asked her if it was me she was complaining about.