DS in changing rooms

[Whyarepeoplesomiserable]

We are members of a family sports club and the changing facilities available are as follows:

female general changing
female adults only
men general
men adults only
family changing

the family changing is something I only use when I’m with DH and more than one child as 1) it’s pretty grim - it’s basically 3 wet room cubicles/very slippery and 2) it makes sense for a mixed sex group/family changing together. usually if I’m just with DS (3 years old) or DS (1 year old) we go into female general. There are usually other children there 2 and it’s huge/dry/non slippery.

today in there with 3 year old DS this woman was very nasty and complained in front of us about him being in there to a member of staff, but in such a way that I wasn’t 100% sure she was talking about us. When she left I asked the staff member who said she was complaining but is just the type of person who complains about everything.

AIBU to think if she wants adults only she can go into adults only? Surely I’m not obliged to used the slippery, wet family
changing? I thought until 7 my boys were fine to be in changing with me

I'm confused. If there is family changing and female adults only why is there "general" female changing? Is that for say 10-16 year old girls on their own?

I thought you were going to say he was 7 or 8 - then he might be too old for the ladies but not at 3.

@DashboardConfessional

family changing is 3 tiny cubicles with showers in them. The fact there is a massive non adults only female makes it sound like children are welcome there!

I would do just that if the floor was wet.

I'd say family is for families of mixed adults. The general rooms for adults of the assigned gender with children. The adults only bit for adults of the set gender, I would also use with a girl who didn't want to change in the general area with boys with their mums.

I actually think it sounds like a clever set up but they need to have clearer rules.

Also, I imagine, like me, she hates putting a bra on before her skin is fully dry, but I just suck it up rather that keep my tits on Display any longer than neccesary.

There are also dry (non shower) cubicles in the female changing room for self conscious people! It is actually a good set up but I agree they need to be clear.

i am being tongue in cheek re her order of dressing (as that’s not obvious) but i hadn’t seen it before!

im so annoyed I didn’t say something now

3 and 1 absolutely fine. Especially when their are adults only area she could have used.

My 7yr old would be mortified going into the women's though, that's too old in my opinion. Unless is closed lockable cubicles, that would be okay.

I bet the lady who complained is a Mumsnet regular on fwr section. You did absolutely nothing wrong though.

@Oscarthedog

whats fwr?

@Whyarepeoplesomiserable

www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/3281196-FWR

it's the old name of feminism and women's rights that had the sex and gender debate board subsectioned from it

I'm mother to a 6 year old boy and our local David Lloyd policy is up to 8 year old boys are allowed in the womens changing room. The family rooms are with the swimming pool and very wet and horrid.

I thought you were going to say your son was 13 (YABU) but at 3 YANBU and she sounds grumpy, ignore!

@TeachesOfPeaches

thank you, it’s good to know! It’s strange that DL has a clear policy re age and this place doesn’t seem to.

This doesn’t really require an update but I just wanted to say I’ve spoken to the manager and the club rule is 8 in that specific changing room and I’m absolutely entitled to be in there with either of my sons and I will be standing up for myself if someone says anything again! They are going to put up signs as well to make it clear