To want to go to hospital appointment with DH?

[justonemire]

DH has had investigations for a life limiting illness. Last week he received a letter to confirm he does have this illness. We are in our forties with young DC and this is devastating news. DH has an appointment with the consultant in 4 weeks time. This is our opportunity to find out how bad things are and if there is any treatment. The letter says due to Covid you cannot take anyone with you. He really needs the emotional support. AIBU to think I should be allowed to go to this appointment? Has anyone broken this rule and we're you challenged at the hospital? Not sure what to do for the best. Don't want to annoy the consultant and not get the best treatment we can as a result.

@justonemire I would just go with him. Forgiveness is easier to get than permission. Get a new notebook, just for this, write down any questions you have for the appointment & write as much as you can in the consultation, you think you'll remember, but it's so easy to forget so much.

im very very sorry you're both going through this xx

Really sorry you're having to go through the shock and worry of your husband's diagnosis.

The letter was probably generated using a standard template that's possibly out of date. I would just call the consultant's office and ask; I suspect they'll say it's fine for you to come with him.

(Also, just to reassure you: the consultant won't give your husband sub-standard treatment for not following an instruction in an appointment letter.)

Go with him, tell them you are his carer & advocate, they can't stop you going in.

It’s outrageous that they’re still using Covid as a reason to deny people support at the hardest moments of their life. Inhumane.

I still don’t understand the logic of only allowing fathers in during active labour when that was in place.