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Your cooking is "edible"

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Rahoode · 22/05/2022 20:29

This evening I made Enchiladas for tea.

I was cooking in between tending to the baby and two pre schoolers so I forgot to add the seasoning sachet to the sauce. It was no big deal, you just sprinkle the seasoning on afterwards and it taste exactly how it was supposed to.

I sat down with OH to eat and asked him how his food was, his reply was a disappointed "Errrrrr.. it's edible" making it clear he was unimpressed.

There was nothing wrong with the food it was perfectly nice and taste the same as every other time we've had it, it just so happens that he knew the seasoning was added later on and not in with the sauce and IMO wanted to make a big deal of a single mistake.

Even if somebodies cooking is awful I would always say "it's nice, thanks" and not be so rude.

I have a cracking headache so may be feeling more grouchy than I usually would.

AIBU to think he was being rude?

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AtrociousCircumstance · 22/05/2022 20:31

Yes it is fucking rude. And sexist to let you run around doing all the childcare and cook his dinner and then have the complete entitlement to criticise his meal.

What a dickhead.

BarbaraofSeville · 22/05/2022 20:32

Never mind. He can do the cooking from now on, as clearly you're incompetent and don't put in sufficient effort.

He can show you how it's done.

Flopisfatteningbingforchristmas · 22/05/2022 20:32

Jesus. I do the vast majority of the cooking as am a sahm and we normal eat as soon as DH finishes work. He would never criticise my cooking and thanks me every time.

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Rahoode · 22/05/2022 20:33

AtrociousCircumstance · 22/05/2022 20:31

Yes it is fucking rude. And sexist to let you run around doing all the childcare and cook his dinner and then have the complete entitlement to criticise his meal.

What a dickhead.

He was in bed when I started cooking as he worked nights last night and then didn't get to go to sleep until quite late on today as we had a plumber here, but that aside I'm really pissed off with him.

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Sleepingsatellite1 · 22/05/2022 20:33

He’s been rude, he better be washing up.

Unanananana · 22/05/2022 20:34

He will be cooking from now on then yeah? While looking after the kids?

What a twat. I'd never cook for him again.

littleducks · 22/05/2022 20:35

He was rude.

I think that normally the seasoning needs to get in with meat to taste good, sprinkling it on at the end isn't good. But I would have kept my mouth shut and been grateful and appreciative that I had been cooked for.

ShirleyPhallus · 22/05/2022 20:36

He was rude yes, but why did you ask him a question if you didn’t actually want the answer?!

people fishing for compliments then being disappointed that someone hasn’t come through is always a thing

Ponoka7 · 22/05/2022 20:38

Is this out of character because he is a bit knarky because of his disturbed sleep? If so I'd let it go.

SummaLuvin · 22/05/2022 20:43

I ask my DH what he thinks of dinner and I want genuine feedback. I do most of the cooking, so if something isn't great or up his street then I want to know, or I would make it again and there's no point in cooking a meal he doesn't enjoy when I can cook one he does, or if a tweak could improve it.

Why did you ask what he thought when you didn't want to know? Unless he said it in a very rude way I don't see a problem.

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Rahoode · 22/05/2022 20:44

ShirleyPhallus · 22/05/2022 20:36

He was rude yes, but why did you ask him a question if you didn’t actually want the answer?!

people fishing for compliments then being disappointed that someone hasn’t come through is always a thing

Force of habit I suppose, I wasn't fishing for compliments it's just nice to know if somebody you've cooked for is enjoying their food.

Mishap with the seasoning aside, it taste delicious and if I hadn't mentioned the seasoning part then he would have never been able to tell.

We have Enchiladas every few weeks or so and it taste exactly the same as it has every other time.

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Rahoode · 22/05/2022 20:45

Ponoka7 · 22/05/2022 20:38

Is this out of character because he is a bit knarky because of his disturbed sleep? If so I'd let it go.

He can come across quite rude at times without thinking/meaning to apparently

It's like he lacks the basic social niceties.

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lljkk · 22/05/2022 20:52

I like to think I wouldn't take a comment like that seriously.
I could mean he's too tired to taste things or he doesn't know what he likes in that moment. Doesn't have to be a comment about the actual food itself at all.

Then again, we all know in this house that I am the weakest cook. The other residents can take over any time. Edible is aspirational for me, some days.

gamerchick · 22/05/2022 21:01

Isn't it so nice of him to offer to take over the cooking from now on? A big thankyou coming his way there.

My husband has criticised my cooking twice in 13 year. The second time was because he forgot what happened the first time. The same reason, he knew how ai had cooked it and it wasn't the way he thought it should be made. Like slow cooker gammon covered in coke.

He makes his own meals from now on until he's stops being an ungrateful git OP.

Maybebabyno2 · 22/05/2022 21:13

Honestly, I would have laughed at that comment but we often take the piss out of each other. If it's clearly not a joke, he should be making his own meals for a loooong time!

ShirleyPhallus · 22/05/2022 21:21

Rahoode · 22/05/2022 20:44

Force of habit I suppose, I wasn't fishing for compliments it's just nice to know if somebody you've cooked for is enjoying their food.

Mishap with the seasoning aside, it taste delicious and if I hadn't mentioned the seasoning part then he would have never been able to tell.

We have Enchiladas every few weeks or so and it taste exactly the same as it has every other time.

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But you were fishing for compliments - because you asked him if he was enjoying his food, he was honest and you didn’t like that answer.

If you think it was delicious why ask him? You’ll only be disappointed with the answer if it isn’t what you want to hear.

If, on the other hand, this is part of a significantly bigger issue where he’s always rude and ungrateful then that’s a separate thing.

Zucker · 22/05/2022 21:25

Rahoode · 22/05/2022 20:45

He can come across quite rude at times without thinking/meaning to apparently

It's like he lacks the basic social niceties.

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Just with you @Rahoode or with everyone outside your home? Can he control his ruseness with friends and work colleagues?

billy1966 · 22/05/2022 21:26

Brave and really stupid would be my reaction to that.

Rude man.

Let him crack on with cooking his meals.

You have 3 very young children and have been running around all day and still managed to put a meal on the table.

You sound amazing.

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Rahoode · 22/05/2022 21:31

Isn't being pleasant and thanking somebody for the meal just basic manners though?

There has been occasions that he did the cooking and it wasn't to my liking, I would never say that to him over the dinner table though because it would be rude. He'd just spent 30-60 minutes making it for me.

My reply is always "it's nice, thank you"

If he'd been looking after our 3 kids single handed, doing the general house work and then cooking for me.. I would definitely make a point of appearing grateful.

I saw a thread on here a while ago where a poster was livid with her brother always making negative remarks about her cooking, this reminded me of that.

Now I think about it, it's not that uncommon for him to sound 'meh' about my cooking.

Yes I think he can cook his own for a while.

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Herejustforthisone · 22/05/2022 21:32

The rude twat can start cooking then, can’t he?

Does he ever, out of interest?

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Rahoode · 22/05/2022 21:33

Just with you @Rahoode or with everyone outside your home? Can he control his ruseness with friends and work colleagues?

It's not just with me, he can definitely come across rude to other people too.

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Rahoode · 22/05/2022 21:33

billy1966 · 22/05/2022 21:26

Brave and really stupid would be my reaction to that.

Rude man.

Let him crack on with cooking his meals.

You have 3 very young children and have been running around all day and still managed to put a meal on the table.

You sound amazing.

Thank you that's very kind x

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Rahoode · 22/05/2022 21:34

Herejustforthisone · 22/05/2022 21:32

The rude twat can start cooking then, can’t he?

Does he ever, out of interest?

He does often cook yes, it's never Mitchellin star quality though 😄

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TomPinch · 22/05/2022 21:35

If my family don't like what I've cooked them I prefer them to tell me so.

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Rahoode · 22/05/2022 21:38

TomPinch · 22/05/2022 21:35

If my family don't like what I've cooked them I prefer them to tell me so.

Would you take it well though? If you'd been rushed off your feet all day tending to small children and had a bad headache to boot?

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