Rude FaceTiming??

[CriticalEnergy]

Aibu??

MIL here to stay from another country. No cultural difference. Expat. She's genuinely lovely, but. But! Multiple daily loud FaceTimes with her friends where she discusses our house, my cooking (and her friends say shit like "ooh, it would be nice to have x meal, can she do you that?". She chats freely to them about various medical issues regarding my DC or DH, lists off "SO much that still needs doing in this house!" and she practically yells into the phone, as do her friends. She'll parade the phone all around the house showing various unfinished bits of it to them, she's just come in right now while I'm writing this in my pyjamas to wave the phone in one of the DC's faces so they can say hi to someone they've never met. I don't want to say hello to people I've never met over FaceTime when in my nightwear and with absolutely no warning!! I hate it and I think it's rude as fuck. Am I wrong?

Not wrong. Just tell her to stop. You want to relax in your own home and not want every nook and cranny broadcast to all her friends

If she is missing her friends so much that she has to talk to them all the time then she can go home

Tell her! No way would I want randomers seeing my house/dc. That’s very rude, get her told.

Time for MIL’s phone to go missing I think. It’s unutterably rude

Well, I excused myself (in my own damn house) so I didn't have to take part in the face time and it was commented by the screechy friends "ooh. She's not very sociable in the mornings is she?!" Lots of snotty titters.

I. CAN. HEAR. YOU!!!!!!

Switch off the WiFi she sounds worse than a teen

I fucking hate FaceTime. I find it so intrusive. PIL’s FaceTime every Sunday morning and make comments about me still being in my pyjamas (it’s the only day I don’t have to be up and out by 8am!).
Also when they stay here they’ll FaceTime their friends/relatives and make us all say hello in turn etc. Drives me barmy.
YANBU.

Yeah, unfortunately the WiFi password isn't working anymore...

Yep, time for the WiFi to go down.

You can block just her phone on the router so no one else is affected. Oh dear, that router also needs upgraded in this house.

If she’s really genuinely lovely then hopefully she’ll understand when you ask her to stop.

She sounds horrendous. Is this normal for her?

Oh! This 😁

Unbelievably rude.

She needs to overhear you telling friends how rude she is and that you can't wait for her to be gone.

So rude.

Does she think you're deaf?

I'm not sure, it's only the second time I've ever met her in person

She's been here four weeks, two to go. She's not cooked once yet!

OMG! My blood boils just thinking about that! No helpful advice other than the ideas shared already but just wanted to let you know that YA definitely NBU!!!

You have a DH problem

Jesus Christ, I'm an expat and a MIL and it would be a cold day in hell when I would impose myself like this on ds and ddil. 😧

Not really, he's not seen his mum for six years due to illness and then the pandemic. Apparently she can't cook, his dad does it. But he's not here

That doesn't mean she gets to be rude.
He needs to talk to her.

Your DH should be cooking and taking the majority or the extra labour of having her. As well as telling her not to be so rude on her calls.

Horribly rude and that’s it how any guest behaves in someone else’s house.
She isn’t “genuinely lovely” is she? Why on earth do you think she is? Would you behave like that in someone’s house?

I don't understand why you don't say something? It isn't a small annoyance or petty thing, its massively rude and intrusive of her and needs nipped in the bud.

She'll parade the phone all around the house showing various unfinished bits of it to them, she's just come in right now while I'm writing this in my pyjamas to wave the phone in one of the DC's faces so they can say hi to someone they've never met.

So next time the intrusive gobshite does this - take the phone out of her hand, leave it on facetime & say "stop acting like my home is a location for your critical documentary, & stop filming any of us without permission" - then switch the facetime off & hand the phone back to her.

I'm gobsmacked by her rudeness, but also gobsmacked that you allowed her to continue it right under your nose ...

WHAT?

Oh this is very much more than rudeness & ignorance OP.

It's a dominance display.
She set out to make you uncomfortable - then made you the butt of her little circle's 'joke' for being ... uncomfortable.

Again - zero tolerance is your best option here. She needs to remember whose house she is a guest in. Next time she pulls this stunt - take the phone out of her hand, & calmly & deliberately throw it out of the window into your garden.

When she kicks off about that - tell her she can follow it if she doesn't start respecting you, & the rules of your house. Do it OP - she is deliberately making you on edge & miserable.