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To think winning the lottery would destroy the relationships you have with some people

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cuppateaandabiccie · 20/05/2022 19:03

Just reflecting on the couple who have won £184 million in the lottery. To say that is a lot of money is an understatement!

i was just say dreaming about what I’d spend it on - I’d pay off my mortgage, buy a new car and I’d love to buy a holiday home in Italy or Spain. I’d give quite a lot to close family members and to very very close friends and then loads to charities.

I always said I’d want to retire but my stance is that I’d never go public with my winnings and I think if I just came into work one day and retired the next that the secret would be out!

I’m not sure how I would deal with it when I first found out - I don’t think I’d want to tell DH, DC or anyone for that matter until I got stuff sorted and worked out. I’d only ever give the money to family and friends on the basis that they don’t tell anyone about it.

i don’t know how you could keep it a secret forever though. I feel as though my family would hate me for keeping it a secret forever and then distant relatives/work colleagues/acquaintances would hate me also as I don’t think I’d give anything to them because they’d only be wanting money off me!

AIBU to think that way?

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downtonupton · 20/05/2022 22:16

I have these thoughts - I have planned that when I win that kinds of money on the EuroMillions that I will give everyone on my Christmas card list £1million. I will do it anonymously thought a solicitor or something with a note that says 'a friend of yours has good fortune and wishes to share with their friends'... then I will need own up but just be a 'recipient' of the good fortune, just like them

downtonupton · 20/05/2022 22:17

downtonupton · 20/05/2022 22:16

I have these thoughts - I have planned that when I win that kinds of money on the EuroMillions that I will give everyone on my Christmas card list £1million. I will do it anonymously thought a solicitor or something with a note that says 'a friend of yours has good fortune and wishes to share with their friends'... then I will need own up but just be a 'recipient' of the good fortune, just like them

*never own up

MrsTerryPratchett · 20/05/2022 22:17

downtonupton · 20/05/2022 22:16

I have these thoughts - I have planned that when I win that kinds of money on the EuroMillions that I will give everyone on my Christmas card list £1million. I will do it anonymously thought a solicitor or something with a note that says 'a friend of yours has good fortune and wishes to share with their friends'... then I will need own up but just be a 'recipient' of the good fortune, just like them

That's bloody genius!

SecondarySnob · 20/05/2022 22:21

What you have to do is admit you've come into money.

But not that it was a win.

If people find out it's lottery then they'll feel they can ask for it.

But if it's because you made an investment years ago you'd forgotten about. Aunt died. Sold shares etc.

Then people can't feel like they have a claim in it. But you can still give to those you want to.

I'd just be like "bitcoin" - totally forgot I got some YEARS ago. Etc etc.

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 20/05/2022 23:02

@downtonupton genius!!

Nevergoingtobemrsjones · 20/05/2022 23:21

My friends boyfriend was mates with the male half of a couple who won a lot on the lotto years ago
you wouldn’t believe the amount of greedy fuckers who came out of the woodwork and hounded them for ‘their’ share
like the female half of this couple said to my mate ‘I know my real friends now,they don’t care and haven’t asked for a thing’
sad but true

i just freak out at that amount and wouldn’t know where to start!

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Dancingwithhyenas · 01/06/2022 20:06

I’d keep it a secret except from those friends and family I was going to share it with. It would be pointless being rich without those I love being rich too.

Fulbe · 01/06/2022 21:23

there was a tv programme about lottery winners a few years ago. This had happened to all of them. They all looked miserable and had to justify to themselves that they were happier now, even though they clearly weren't. I'd give the lot away to charity, what a rush.

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