Never to speak to this man again because my partner doesn’t want me too?

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I have a child with sever autism. He’s soon to be moving schools. A the school we are in I have began chatting to a dad who is there daily, he has a child in my sons class and we got chatting as he noticed my son had autism and said his other son does. We got talking about that. Turns out our children will be attending the same school. So we have became kind of friends just to chat to in the school yard while waiting for the kids to come out. My partner knows this man from his work. Hes told me he doesn’t want me to speak to him ever again. Iv asked why?? We are chatting in the school yard about our kids!! He doesn’t care and thinks it’s going to turn into meeting up for sex and affairs and who knows what else! Iv never been unfaithful but for some unknown reason my partner is insecure because I’m younger I think is the reason.
so Iv said no! I will still chat to this man about our children and it would go no further than that! Now he’s not happy with me that I won’t just blank this man for the rest of my life.
what do I do?

Is there any possibility that your DH has been up to something and he is concerned that the dad knows as they work in the same place (office gossip and all that)?

Maybe he is concerned that he will tell you and that’s why he doesn’t want you talking

If he has a reputation for flirting and he's never touched you before, did the shoulder rubbing feel like he was living up to that in front of your husband, or was it just a sinple tap to get your attention?

Agree with PP. This man knows something your husband doesn't want you to find out.

I think it's very possible your husband is judging you by his own standards.

My ex was like this. This is why he’s an ex.

Some posters love to spout misogynistic tripe. Reported.

From the fact that he didn’t punch the guy (or otherwise make his concerns known) at the presentation but kicked off at you once you were home it seems quite clear that it’s all about controlling you and that is never a good thing.

Oh give over will you. We're talking about conversation at the school gates about kids. I have literally never seen a thread where people have said that was a RED FLAG on it's own. Never.

Much like the women who complain about their husband's platonic friendships with other women. Odd how the responses are different when the genders (or whatever) are reversed!

Or maybe your husband knows that this stranger is a serial wife-stealer?

He is basically saying you are a trollop op!!
He has no respect for you. Keep him away. He is a pile of shite best binned.

This creep is rubbing your shoulders and you still think he’s got innocent intentions? And you’re choosing to defend him over your husband? Wake up.

I would leave your partner, as that is worryingly controlling.

I am single parent, and happily speak to parents of both sexes at the school gates without a thought- I wouldn’t even imagine it would ever lead in to anything else or want it to. Your partner sounds like he must have a problem or a secret himself to jump to such conclusions.

Absolutely agree! Just seen another thread where everyone is encouraging the woman to leave her husband for having a female friend at work.

OP has been warned by her husband that this man is a flirt, and looks at women at work, but doesn’t believe him, even after he’s been rubbing her shoulders?! Huge lack of respect and trust from wife to husband, in my opinion.

Oh missed your update! The guy does sound like a creep. I wouldn’t be talking to him.

But I’d still leave your partner for being so untrusting of you, and even more so for waiting until you were alone to kick off AT YOU about it, rather than challenging the bloke for being so creepy.

You are completely right in saying no to him, but the fact you seem so happy for him not to be there, suggests that there were other issues in your relationship too?

If I were married, and when I was married, I wouldn’t have been concerned about my H speaking to women at the school gates. For those who suggest a double standard.

If women started touching him I would expect him to have been able to calmly stop them from doing so but it is not the same due to the power balance between men and women. A man is better able to rebuff creepy advances from a woman by himself than vice versa.

We are chatting in the school yard about our kids!! He doesn’t care and thinks it’s going to turn into meeting up for sex and affairs and who knows what else

That's his problem, not yours. Does he not trust you? I'm sorry but I'd laugh at my DH if he started telling me who I could or couldn't speak to, stuff that!