Cheeky Fucker - Group Gift

[TulaOfDarkWater]

Friendship group of six. One member has a birthday coming up & the other five people decided to get together & buy her a big ticket item.

Site A sells the item for £500 so £100 per person, everyone agreed & was happy with this.

Site B has a deluxe version for £700 so £140 per person, everyone agreed this was out of budget & unanimously decided to go with the £500 option from site A.

Just before the item could be purchased, a member of the group, let’s call her Anne, said she had a 20% off voucher for site B which was due to expire soon & it would be silly to waste it so how about we use it to buy the deluxe version & pay a little extra as birthday girl has had a shitty time of it lately etc.

In the group chat, we discussed:

£700 - 20% = £560

£560 / 5 = £112 per person

Anne thumbs up emoji liked this message!

Everyone agreed they could stretch to the £12 extra & it was decided that we would buy the deluxe item from Site B. The ONLY reason we agreed to this was due to the discount voucher, everyone was happy to purchase from site A otherwise.

Anne purchased the item using the voucher & sent everyone her bank details asking for £140. When this was queried, Anne said the 20% voucher represented her 1/5 contribution & so everyone else owes £140.

1. Anne knows the reason the £700 option was vetoed in the first place was because everyone - including Anne - agreed £140 was out of budget

1. At no time did Anne say the 20% voucher was her contribution & the rest of us had to pay full price. Another member of the group had the exact same voucher & we could have used hers if we had known

1. There are text messages where the group discussed the maths & agreed to £12 extra each & Anne did not dispute this & in fact thumbs up emoji’d it. Her excuse for this is she didn’t read the messages properly, the thumbs up was a mistake / she didn’t do it deliberately / know it was there & she is bad at maths anyway so tuned out!

So am I being unreasonable to think Anne is a cheeky fucker & deliberately mislead us? If we had stuck to the original plan then Anne would have had to pay £100 but this way she pays nothing & the rest of us an extra £40!!

Just to be clear, this voucher was one of those promotional email ones that are sent to those on the company’s mailing list, it wasn’t a voucher that had any monetary value or was a gift to her which would be different & like I said, another member had the exact same voucher which she was happy for us to use instead if we had known this is what Anne was doing.

Indeed a hijack of the thread
@Crimesean so sorry I don't understand the cool kids club!

I need to know what the gift is.

Oh for fucks sake.

This is hardly an emotive thread where a marriage is at stake.

It's a thread which was long ago abandoned by OP where 8 pages of people have agreed she's a loon!!

Poor @AnneDeluxe. It was so kind of you to let them use your voucher

😂

There’s some seriously miserable miserable Minnies on here.

Long abandoned? It's been twice hours since the thread started. Give her a chance. Maybe she has a life beyond mumsnet?

Thanks dear. I'm a bit busy right now. I've been muted by the wards of the board and have been assigned to "hijackers corner" where I must write lines.

@KermitlovesKeyLimePie it was gold plate toilet paper, dear. The deluxe version plays a little tune while wiping.

Wow thanks for all the responses, I really appreciate it!

To answer some questions:

• We have all known each other since we were teens & while Anne has always had some CF tendencies it was all low level & never to this extent which is why I’m absolutely gobsmacked. This is going to sound strange but the richer Anne has got, the more tight / cheeky fucker like she has become, I know it makes no sense whatsoever but that’s honestly what has happened.

• There’s a divide in the group:

• 1 person says to return for a refund

• 1 person says pay £112 & no more

• 1 person says pay £140 to keep the peace

• 1 person says they will pay the extra on top of own their share so the others still pay £112 as originally agreed (but then Anne gets away with it)

We have agreed to come to a consensus though & all do the same thing.

• The group chat (set up specifically about the gift) has gone silent but Anne is trying to engage us as if nothings happened in the regular group chat with the birthday girl, like deliberately asking each of us questions etc. We don’t want birthday girl to know so we have to respond but obviously not as enthusiastically as before

• Yes it’s a coffee machine

• We normally spent £50 on a gift but then another £50 on dinner / drinks but the birthday girl is currently undergoing treatment for a medical condition so theres no night out this year. We thought we’d club together the usual £100 we would spend anyway & get something we know she would love but never buy herself

• Yes I am rethinking the friendship with Anne, I have always excused past CF tendencies as oversights / forgetfulness or misunderstandings but I think this clarifies in my mind that actually there’s a deliberateness about it. I’ve noticed her play dumb / feign ignorance a few times (when I know for a fact she understands the situation ) but I’m starting to think she does this more often than I realised.

I think maybe you should do something else as well. 🤭

I'd like to say you should send the following:
"Do I look like a cunt, Anne? No? So why you trying to fuck me like one?"

And then block and delete.

In reality I'd send her the £112 and bitch about her like a madwoman to whoever would listen.

Tell her you'll only be sending £112 as already agreed and think it's ridiculous that she is selfishly using the 20% off as her contribution, when another member also has that voucher and could've been used. Or she can return/cancel the item and you all will purchase from site A as originally agreed.
Tag in the comments where £112 was agreed and £140 was decided out of budget.

She can't be that bad at maths if she worked out her contribution after the 20%

Her fault for not reading mssgs properly

Two not twice!

As opposed to you who finds relatively life hearted threads that you've thrice proclaimed to be indignant at yet is still there prowling waiting for someone to agree with you so you can point out for the 3rd time how awful I am. There's the dream.

@Herejustforthisone as should you

Anne’s a total twat. But the rest of you sound like lovely friends.

I am.

Scunnered by those fools. I was planning on using my spends to set up a business selling tap water for 50 pound a gulp.

I'm not looking for anyone to agree with me. No one is!! I'm just responding to your comments dear

Burn.

Just realised Anne hasn't contributed anything financially OMG cheeky git!! You must call her out on this. This is hugely unfair

You're quite amusing, really Hans.

@Herejustforthisone come and join me in naughty corner. I've got 140 pound times four to spend on biscuits.

1 person says to return for a refund

This is by far the best option.

No, no one is.

So why not give in and give little old Anne a break?

@Herejustforthisone maybe like @AnneDeluxe you should name change for this thread? May I suggest Regina George?

Seriously - (for one post only)

Your friends sound like absolute sweethearts.