To ask what you’d do? Wedding dress related.

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I bought a wedding dress on Saturday. I have decided that I despise it and would like to return it (or set it on fire). The shop (little boutique) only issues store credit. I don’t think it’s likely that I will use thousands of pounds of wedding boutique store credit.

What would you do? I’m screwed, aren’t I?

I would definitely look as you were obviously thinking very differently then..... Can't hurt.....

I'd go back to the store and see if there is anything else you like. Don't take anyone else, just your own opinion.
All those suggestions to sell, ime its extremely hard to sell a wedding dress. Most people want them for under 200 so you definitely wouldn't get your full money back

Please don’t flame me … if I bought a wedding dress and then decided I really really didn’t want to get married in it, I’d wonder what was going on in my own head.

Did not spot this at my own last wedding, for which I refused to buy a dress and wore a ball gown from the back of the wardrobe.

I have no idea what you’re implying, but I’m assuming it’s fairly unpleasant as you are expecting to be flamed. I bought a dress I don’t like. ‘My own head’ is fine, thank you.

Oooh, this is interesting!

Sometimes there is a lot of pressure to commit to a dress and the next day you have a change of heart .Nothing is "going on in your head" FFS! Maybe see if the shop may help you .You can try selling it. If no luck ,maybe remodel it if you can .Otherwise move on with another dress.No one will feel happy in a dress they dont like on an important day!

Are you sure this isn’t just a result of stress due to arranging a wedding?
I hated my wedding dress a few months before the wedding. I had to go back to the shop and try on the sample again. It was perfect on the day.

Is there a picture of the dress online? Something similar?

I suspect I’m going to regret this, but this is the dress.

Lots of great advice, thank you.

I think my issue is that I have no clear idea what I actually want in a wedding dress. I just know that I detest and will regret wearing the one I currently have. And I lack the imagination to see how it could be remodelled.

Selling store credit might be my best bet. Or perhaps there’s something else in the shop that could be remodelled?

I agree with this. If you like the basic fit/cut, it would probably be cheaper to have a seamstress alter it to your taste (they can change the neckline/froth it up/add embellishments) than selling it at a loss and buying a new dress. And you might get something customised to your exact taste.

Thank you. I went with my MOH and she LOVED it. I think I let myself get swept along with that a bit.

What do you still like about it?

What do you dislike?

Take it back and get store credit and see if they can work with you to order in one you like.

It doesn't say Very identikit ‘bridal to me if that help I mean it's obviously a bridal dress but the top of rather unique.

Have you tried it on with all of your make up on and hair done and with nice shoes? You may feel differently if you give that a whirl.

Dislikes: It’s very Disney and I look like a marshmallow. It has nothing to do with my usual (quite edgy modern) aesthetic or my (OTT colourful, multicultural, in the middle of a big city) wedding.

Likes: I suppose that the top is pretty.

I don’t hate the top. I suppose it’s the bottom/skirt that’s giving me pause. There’s rather a lot of it.

Ah.

Thank you for posting the pic.

Oooh I like it! the colour is lovely on you.

Agree, it’s not at all ‘identikit bridal’. Perhaps a little too big for you (the skirt)?

I think it's absolutely disgusting of them to not offer a refund when you only bought it on Saturday - how can they get away with that? Surely there's a cooling off period? It's not like they've made it especially for you - presumably you've bought it off the peg in which case I can't understand why it's cost thousands anyway? My own wedding dress had to be specially ordered (after trying on the sample in the boutique) in my size then have several alterations, I also changed a couple of things I didn't like to suit me better - this was a very chichi boutique in Cheshire and the dress was a top bridal designer and that was less than £2k!

They sounds like right chancers.

I'd check with the store that they are happy for you to transfer store credit before you sell it. Most bridal boutiques are small enough that they'd notice someone showing up with an £X000 gift card, as they'll know that they've only issued one of them.

The skirt hits you in the wrong place o think.

I would get a “belt” of wide satin ribbon to chinch it in a bit in a grey and then you could even go for a total new skirt, in a complimenting colour- a shade of white. A raw silk would look great.

The bodice is very beautiful.

Sorry - I realise none of that was very helpful I'm just annoyed on your behalf! 😂

For what it's worth I think it's a very pretty dress and you have a beautiful figure.

First, ring the shop and see if you can negotiate with them. If its a popular style they might be able to sell it again, no harm in trying. Then i would ask myself, do you have an idea of what exactly you want, did you do your research and see online etc what you like. Research what brands each shop has, go to a few but not too many. Did the shop help you at all for styles? I am just going on what i found when i was buying my own wedding dress. I would go to a few shops ( on your own) and try on different styles and see what exactly you want. Then see if your current dress ( if you couldn't return it) can be altered to what you want. You can also try selling your dress, there are lots of resale websites out there . I did find that once i found my dress ( also on my own) i knew when i tried it on it was the one.

The people in the shop are not chancers, they have no obligation to issue a refund.