I’m an idiot

[Suchafooooool]

A couple of years ago I got chatting to a guy on holiday - we got on, had a few drinks and chatted on Facebook for a few more weeks. It was all quite low key and both youngish (mid 20s) and in different countries. I made a mental note to look him up if I went back there on hol and was still single etc. His last message to me was a bit intense (“Sarah Sarah sarahhhhh”) and I remember thinking hmm not really sure how to reply, so left it there.

im going back to his country soon, so added him on Instagram. He immediately accepted the request and asked to re-follow. I’m not too good at checking insta and left it a few days before I followed him back. Have since seen that he’s deleted his request, he just have left it up for a week and then deleted today 😢 im still following him, which he did accept and has left up.

I’m a massive overthinker and was trying to guess whether he was single etc etc so just didn’t check properly and left the follow request waiting. Planned to accept and then message him saying I would be in his area and did he have any recommendations.

have I fucked it? Am I overthinking way too much? Do I just leave it all here?

[Suchafooooool]

Obviously by “leave it all here” I accept nothing has actually happened lol. Just want to see whether it’s worth sending a casual message asking for sightseeing recommendations and the like or just leave it. I feel like he must have been a bit interested or at least intrugued to request to follow me and then pull it a week later 😶 I did genuinely want to catch up with him and had fond memories of meeting him and getting to know him

[MmeMeursault]

FFS....

[Vikinga]

He sounds like trouble. Like he would love bomb you and mess you around. Don't go there

[ChiefWiggumsBoy]

If you're after a shag when you go away, then by all means message him. Realistically that's all that can happen really, isn't it? A holiday romance?

If you're not, then don't.

[Doona]

If you did genuinely want to catch up with him then catch up with him.

[Aquamarine1029]

Sorry, but this is absolutely ridiculous. He's a stranger to you. Move on with your life.

[miraveile]

Can you explain the Sarah Sarah thing more please?!

[Suchafooooool]

Sorry... My name is Sarah (changed for obvious reasons). So his message to me was “Sarah Sarah Sarahhhh talk to meee” a few months after we met, randomly. As I say we were both young at the time and I just thought hmm not sure how to reply. I guess he was just a horny guy but I felt flattered and assumed he did think of me occasionally!! Hence the random message

[MardyOldGoth]

Player. Don't go there.

[Ponoka7]

If you want a hook-up while out there, then it sounds as though he'd be up for it. If you think that you will find romance then you're being naive. Don't waste a holiday by focusing on him.

[thevanilla]

he sounds bloody creepy

[Horsemad]

You both sound utterly bonkers.

[avamiah]

No I would not meet up with him and that’s my advice to you.

[FooFighter99]

Make sure you get an STD check when you get back 😂

[Mangogogogo]

I’m confused why everyone thinks he’s creepy or a player.. he’s barely made any fucking contact 😂😂

[FuchsAndMöhr]

Are you 12? 🤷🏼‍♀️

[debwong]

@Mangogogogo

I’m confused why everyone thinks he’s creepy or a player.. he’s barely made any fucking contact 😂😂

Made me laugh as well 😅

[Surfsupsidedown]

So he added you and ignored it for a week?

But in the meantime are stalking him on insta?

whole situation is just bizarre!

[MermaidEyes]

He probably pulled the request when you didn't bother to accept for a week, obviously thought you weren't going to reply. I don't think he sounds creepy, tbh I think it's a bit odd you'd even think about getting back in touch with some random guy you met on holiday two years ago and haven't kept in contact with.

[SleeplessInEngland]

Who cares if he's a 'player' if you want a fling then go for it. You've been the pursuer so far.

[Andromachehadabadday]

Sounds like you are playing games and he didn’t respond how you wanted. Now you are pissed off.

[SarahProblem]

it's like you're having a competition with him about who can wave the biggest red flag.... grow up and move on maybe?

[MrPoppysParka]

@Mangogogogo

I’m confused why everyone thinks he’s creepy or a player.. he’s barely made any fucking contact 😂😂

😂😂 exactly. Poor bloke!

[AlyssasBackRolls]

You didn't respond to his message to talk and you left him hanging on the follow request so it's not surprising he's gone cold - he's taking what he probably thinks is the hint to leave you alone!

Just send him a message saying you're coming over and would like to meet for a drink - he'll probably be delighted. Just say what you want and don't leave him hanging if you do want to see him again.

[TabithaTittlemouse]

I don’t get it.

I also don’t understand why people assume he’s a player? Where are you getting that from?