To think waitress was a bit off.

[Lancslass11]

So two friends order same item from smaller plate menu.
One is normal weight and one overweight.
Takes overweight persons order without comment. When normal weight person orders same thing she gets are you sure? It is so small Are you sure you don't want extra chips etc etc.
Now I know it is minor but I found this a little irritating.
So AIBU

And you don't see anything wrong with the assumptions bound up in that?

Context is key here, sometimes when one person orders the same as the person before wait staff ask questions as person 1 most likely read and understood it’s a small plate, sometimes people when dining as a group just order what someone else has without thinking.

Id think that was the most likely reason she checked and clarified with person 2 about it being a small plate.

The waitress withheld the offer of chips from the fatty?

Behave.

Oh I hadn't realised she'd actually WITHHELD the chips?! She actually said, would anyone but like chips?! 😱🤨

Normally when I go out with a other people the waiting person takes all the orders and then checks whether any more sides are required, often suggesting that we might require more food/we've only ordered a small quantity.

Am I to take it that if the last person to order happens to be one of the larger present that the request means something different to when the last person to order is one of the smaller?

6 went out .
Person one ordered small version of a meal
Person 2 order meal regular menu
Person 3 who is the petite one order same meal as Person 1
4 to 6 ordered regukar meals.
Person 3 was the only person who was questioned and told O it is so small. Are you sure you don't want the standard one which comes with chips.?
No she didn't mesn it generally as no one else was offered sides or no general suggestion of sides to share type comment.

Oh so the second small meal wasn't ordered straight after the first small meal. That's different. It had nothing to do with the bigger person at all.

Well, clearly you know what the waitress was thinking, and that there's no possibility that she was taking the order on autopilot and missed the opportunity to upsell something, it's not like wait staff are humans and make mistakes like everyone else right? Always got an agenda and enjoy their little bit of power with holding chips from fat people.
And I don't suppose for a second that hearing this conversation, the first person to order the smaller meal, had they wanted chips, could have asked for them?

I missed an opportunity today to upsell from 2 glasses of wine to a bottle, clearly I was calling the customer an alcoholic in a passive aggressive way, as I did upsell to the next one who asked for 2 glasses of wine. I missed the opportunity because I was watching someone else who looked like they were a bit lost (looking for the toilet) and did the order on autopilot, but really I must have just thought 'you look like an alcy, no more booze for you luv'

Do people really think that the people serving them pay this much attention past what is required to get the order right and deliver it to the table?!

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Well, a bit off yes. Also wrong she should have offered more food to the fat person. It takes more energy to run a bigger body so fat people need more food to maintain their body weight.

That's it though. I dont know what she was thinking. Hence why I started a thread to canvas opinions.
I certainly don't think it was about upselling though because no attempt was made to upsell starters or sides to anyone else.
To me it just seems odd as the petite person remains petite as she has a tiny appetite. I have a few friends who are similar and certainly wouldn't feel the need to complain that the meal was too small. They tend to eat slowly and stop when full. Sometimes wish I wasn't such a bolter of food.

If the waiter had offered you the chips and not your friend would you be posting about the insinuation that you must want more food being bigger?

What the waiter should have done is advised you both the plates were small and asked if you wanted anything for the table.

(I'm larger myself and the chips would have already been ordered!)