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Looking after your man guide, omg if true.

58 replies

Hawkins001 · 15/05/2022 15:57

Not sure how accurate this is as just seen it on Facebook, normally I don't begin threads, but omg if this intelligence is accurate.

Looking after your man guide, omg if true.
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MaryAndHerNet · 15/05/2022 15:58

I think it's a joke and from the 50s. To be sure,.men want to get back to that, but fuck that noise.

heldinadream · 15/05/2022 16:00

As someone born in 1955, yes it's totally true and standard. My mother had two large volumes of housekeeping books entirely full of this bollocks. She was miserable. Forever.

Hawkins001 · 15/05/2022 16:00

heldinadream · 15/05/2022 16:00

As someone born in 1955, yes it's totally true and standard. My mother had two large volumes of housekeeping books entirely full of this bollocks. She was miserable. Forever.

Holy smokes

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Chikapu · 15/05/2022 16:01

It's from the 50s, most of that was standard expectations of a 'wife'.

DelilahBucket · 15/05/2022 16:01

This has been doing the rounds on socials for years. Yes it is accurate for the time. Very much how a lot, if not most, women lived.

BlanketsBanned · 15/05/2022 16:03

Pretty standard for 70 years ago, then along came Cosmopolitan which added the sex part too.

heldinadream · 15/05/2022 16:04

@Hawkins001 further to which, the experience of seeing how miserable she was turned me into a rabid feminist at the age of fifteen and I still am at the age of 67.

Plutoisaplanet · 15/05/2022 16:06

I think my dh would have me follow all of this if he thought he could get away with it

Hawkins001 · 15/05/2022 16:07

heldinadream · 15/05/2022 16:04

@Hawkins001 further to which, the experience of seeing how miserable she was turned me into a rabid feminist at the age of fifteen and I still am at the age of 67.

When I read that guide I was like, say what, and omg 😲.

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Topgub · 15/05/2022 16:08

I cant read ot but im sure I've seen it before.

Depressingly enoughloafs of women seem to still agree

RichardOsmansXraySpecs · 15/05/2022 16:09

Now I know where I've been going wrong - I always forget the pretty ribbon in my hair.

Badger1970 · 15/05/2022 16:11

Hmm I think my FIL must have wrote that........... and he recited it to DH daily during his childhood.

Only DH got me and not an obedient version Grin

Skelligsfeathers · 15/05/2022 16:16

There's loads of that which is twaddle but some of it is just being loving surely?
If i am at home while dh is at work then i will tidy up before he comes home so it's nice when he gets back, same with getting dinner ready.

Ellie56 · 15/05/2022 16:26

Yep I've seen that 1950s bollocks somewhere before. Hmm

Moodycow78 · 15/05/2022 16:27

This is quite real, this is how women were expected to behave and loads of this type of thing was published. It was also taught in schools.

Lavapalaver · 15/05/2022 16:32

I think it’s not such a bad formula for a successful partnership if one person is working all day and one is a sahp.
If the man was the sahp, tea on the table, kids bathed with pj’s on, nobody ready to bombard me with dramatic tales about the days events. I mean I wouldn’t expect a ribbon in his hair, but a tidy zen environment and happy peaceful kids I’d think was fair enough. 🤷‍♀️

Aposterhasnoname · 15/05/2022 16:33

I had an old mrs Beetons household manual printed in the 30s, it was pages and pages of this exact bollox.

NotAGirl · 15/05/2022 16:34

This is why second wave feminists fought for women’s rights. We know what it used to be like and how fragile our gains are really.

hellcatspanglelalala · 15/05/2022 16:37

LOL

missypissy · 15/05/2022 16:40

I find it funny in a OMG that’s so ridiculous it’s laughable but then at the same time I don’t. Quite horrifying to know it wasn’t that long ago and the gains can seem fragile at times like a previous poster just stated.

Lavapalaver · 15/05/2022 16:41

You can imagine it on here:
‘aibu ? I’ve just worked a 12 hour shift in a&e. Husband is a sahp. Every night I return home to a house strewn with homework and clutter. The kids are running riot with food all over their faces. Dp is wearing his old jogging bottoms covered In puréed sprouts and hasn’t shaved for a month.
we have no time together because as I walk through the door he starts hoovering and doing the washing. Every night after my shift I end up eating a microwave meal as he hasn’t cooked, and the food budget has gone to pot because he never meal plans. We’re wasting money left right and centre while I work my ass off to come home to a shit tip . On top of this, as soon as I walk through the door , he confronts me with a list of problems and offloads all his stress on to me.
I need time to decompress! Aibu ?!!!!’

SmellyWellyWoo · 15/05/2022 17:02

I devini

WomanAnon · 15/05/2022 17:45

I just showed this to my husband and he said he didn't think I would have made a very good housewife back then 🤣

ALongHardWinter · 15/05/2022 17:52

Some of that stuff could have been written by my DD's MIL.

Lottie4 · 15/05/2022 17:57

No, my DH is very happy in the kitchen right now. He's listening to rubbish (putting it politely) music and drinking a glass of wine I left on the side while cooking tea😂(in my defence I left the house before 7am for work, got home 40mins ago).

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