AIBU or is it normal to have to negotiate on every single thing with DP?

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Passthegin99 · 15/05/2022 12:37

So this is a big issue but I'll try and keep it short. In essence, ever since we moved in together 6 years ago my DP seems to disagree with me constantly (and usually wins). This is about everything big and small - when I was on mat leave he used to insist he knew best for our DS despite me being the one at home with him all day every day and now it's things like furniture choices, where we are allowed to live, whether we can have a dog, down to small things like (this morning) whether our DS (now 3) needs larger pants - just get some FFS! - to how to store suitcases, or how much rice to get with our curry...the list goes on and I'm exhausted!

Is this normal?? All the other women I know have husbands who go along with things at least some of the time!

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Passthegin99 · 17/05/2022 08:24

mummyrocks1 · 16/05/2022 12:30

I have yes. We are currently living separately whilst we have joint counselling. It became too much for me.

I am not sure what the future holds or if we will stay together or not. He's talking about moving back in but I don't want to go back to the constant arguments. I know we won't always agree but it's his reactions to things. But then he says it's mine. I just want to be able to have an adult conversation to reach a decision without it needing to be an argument. We seem to disagree on everything though. Just this week should dc do extra sessions of a particular sport, does dc need more clothes for a holiday, who should put the bins out, where I should park, the list is endless and it's exhausting

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Sounds like you've taken the first, hardest, step by living separately. Keep going x

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