To think he is just making excuses

[Cherrypieinthesky]

Hi,

I have been seeing a man for a short while. All was going well. We have fun and get on really well.

However, for the last two days he has been very distant. He suffers with a bad back. He said yesterday afternoon he would come and see me if he got his pain levels down but then didn’t reply all evening and was not online. He says this morning that pain morphine knocked him out and that the hospital came out to give it to him. Aibu to think he is making excuses not to see/talk to me.

I understand this could be true but I just don’t feel like a priority at all. He has been giving lots of empty promises too.

He was fine and dandy on Saturday, but now he’s Ill again?! I don’t think I believe him and neither do you obviously. I think I’d throw this one back!

Sounds like he has another woman as well as you.

My BIL is currently laid up with his back at the moment. He can't even get to the toilet. My sister is a nurse and when I've suggested hospital she baulked and said they won't do anything.

I'd find it hard to believe someone was coming out to give your guy morphine, but regardless, if you don't trust him then get rid.

His meds have knocked him out but he’s well enough to be on call for work?

@IJoinedJustForThisThread exactly my thoughts!

Caught himself out there, hasn’t he?!

Anyone who vaguely ‘aims’ to see you, is not in the place, ill or not.
He hopes to keep you in reserve and expects you should be happy with that. Whether he’s genuine or full of it (I imagine it’s the latter but benefit of the doubt and all that), it doesn’t matter.

Tell him you don’t want a boyfriend that ‘aims’ to see you and bid him farewell.

Olympic style jump.

But if he's lying about pain, he's an idiot. Some of us really do have those pain levels.

There’s no way I believe he had a doctor come out to give him morphine. I’ve had 3 spine operations, and have been in bed for almost 7 years. Even with private health care I have to go into a hospital to get a morphine injection. Although I have had patches and tablets to take at home.

He isn’t prioritising you or your relationship. Listen to your gut, and run.

Yes he said a doctor from the hospital. I didn’t know they could do that without an ambulance

They can. It's a new idea I think to keep people from clogging up a&e and wards. My brother had a funny turn which could have been a hypo and rang 111 and they sent a charge nurse out in a car to do his BP, sugar etc. Stuff normally done on the ward- but without using an ambulance or taking up a bed. This was a couple of months ago.

Also a paramedic came out and gave my dd morphine when her kneecap popped out. Got it back in again and left.