Not sure why friend took offence to this?

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A friend is really into women's boxing, and attends the sessions a couple of times a week.
It's good for her but not something that interests me at all.
She asked me if I wanted to sign up and I said "thanks, but it's not for me sorry."
She said "What do you mean it's not for you?! It's for everyone!"
Then she said she'd been telling her trainer how it's "such a shame" that more women don't do it.
It's great she's so passionate about it but surely I'm allowed to not like a sport if I want? It doesn't appeal whatsoever to me.

Nothing unreasonable. I have no idea why more women not wanting to be punched in the face or punch others is a bad thing. I find it tacky.

Call me crazy but I don’t want to be Mike Tyson in a dress.

She didn’t take offence! 🤣
She’s just enthusiastic about her new hobby and (wrongly) assumed that your lack of interest because you were writing it off too quickly.
That sounds like a normal conversation.

Not seeing where she took offence. Total non issue

People who get a new hobby they are evangelical about are so tedious. The boxing is a red herring, it could equally be fishing, or opera singing, or macrame.

They enjoy their new pastime, and think everyone else should do it too, and get all huffy and take it as a personal insult when you say that actually, open-water swimming isn't your thing and you'd rather join a book group. Then go on about how much you'd LOVE it if you only just tried, and it's so AMAZING and LIFE CHANGING and the people are so LOVELY and on and on and on.

@KnitPurlKnitPurl
This also applies to people on new diets. So so tedious.

She sounds tedious if she keeps going on about it. YANBU to not want to do it and you were polite in telling her but I don’t see that she took offence. Just carried on waffling on about it after you said no.

She doesn't sound offended. She sounds a bit obsessed and evangelical about her new hobby, which is pretty normal.

Just be thankful it isn't running. Runners are the most tedious breed.

@Tamzo85 you might find it tacky 😒 but being taught kickboxing from a youn age stopped me getting raped at 15 and mugged a few years later. There's nothing wrong with self defence/keeping fit.

@Peoniesandcream

Im glad you found it so beneficial and sorry if my post seemed blunt, sometimes it’s easy to be too harsh with your opinion online.
The one thing I worry about as well is that it might give teen girls and young women a false sense of security and they might do something silly like try to intervene in a situation with a agressive or violent man.
There’s so many any action movies with women beating up men like it’s nothing and all that in the media plus things like boxing being more acceptable, that I worry in the effort to empower girls in the fantasy world or keep them fit - we might be deluding them and setting themselves up to enter into dangerous situations where they could be seriously hurt, because they’re not realistic about the capablilities to fight grown men.

It’s how she went “It’s for everyone!”. She’s clearly got a chip on her shoulder there about something.

It’s not for everyone, clearly. Because it’s not for you! Or me…

That’s a bit of a reach!

Saying it’s for everyone doesn’t mean “I think everyone should do it”. It simply means, “people tend to not consider it as they think it’s not for them, but actually it’s more accessible than people sometimes think and anyone could try it.”

I swim regularly with a group in a lake. I think that’s had so much exposure now that the idea of over weight middle aged women doing it is now it’s stereotype! But a few years ago, I had friends say, “it’s not for me” because they thought only triathletes in training would be welcome. It’s not for everyone - if you hate water, it’s not! But it is welcoming to a far wider mix of people than many would have thought a few years ago.
That’s all “it’s for everyone” means - don’t worry that you’re not the type, you don’t have to be a type.

It’s not a reach, because OP said it’s not her. But the friend said it’s for everyone and in a horrified time.
The opportunity is for everyone, but that’s not what OP meant is it?

*not FOR her

*tone.

Weirdly there’s another thread at the moment questioning why women would box on the basis that it was, amongst other things “uncouth”. Some women have weird views about exercise - they think lifting weights will make them bulky and hitting a few bags will make them look like Mike Tyson in a dress. OP I think your friend is just a zealot who wants everyone to love it as much as she does. She might feel that your comment put you in the “ unladylike and uncouth” camp As an aside practice a martial art or boxing doesn’t encourage women to tackle violent men I think that’s a ridiculous comment. It gives you a great sense of the limits of your own capabilities though and confidence in addition to all the obvious health benefits.

Makes me think of the reaction when I tell people I’m not interested in skiing 😅

1. Boxing most definitely isnt "for everyone"
2. Your friend hasnt taken offence at all - she's just passionate about her new hobby. Its not like she's ignoring you now or sending you arsey messages is it?

I’m glad someone else has pointed out the two boxing threads thing! I’ve wondered before if there’s some sort of algorithm that promotes similar topics?? There were two different but similar posts about expired passports, two about wedding unreasonableness. I’m sure I’ll spot another “double” today.

She said "What do you mean it's not for you?! It's for everyone!"
Then she said she'd been telling her trainer how it's "such a shame" that more women don't do it.

Where is the horrified tone here?

She wasn't offended, ffs. Get a grip.

I think learning self defence is very worthwhile, like the above poster saying it saved her from being raped. Seeing these awful videos posted online and of children being battered by other children , I'm a great believer in self defence , and it can certainly raise confidence in children, who might otherwise be a target for bullies

I got a bit like this when I took up Pilates it really was life changing for me as it helped my chronic pain massively- but it took a friend saying ‘I’m so glad it has changed your life but my life doesn’t want changing’ to realise I needed to stop proselytising!!

Have you seen the new Marvel film?
Somewhere in the Multiverse I guess the boxer used a horrified tone.
Not in this one 🤣

More reaching. You don’t know that she was horrified, and you don’t know that she has a chip on her shoulder. Unless you’re a sock puppet?

Why are there so many threads about female boxing at the moment

Tbf, 2 about Wedding AIBU would be a slow day on MN 😉