Getting over being dumped for what you consider a small reason

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I mean for example: not ringing someone back on time
turning up to the date late
turning up drunk or out of it

ive recently been binned off as I prefer to call it, no talking no explanation.. I made a mistake but his reaction seems quite extreme.

Unless of course he didn’t like me :) which of course he didn’t.

It doesn't matter what you think of the reason-he doesn't need your approval to end things!

I think that’s the thing, turning up drunk is not In the same bucket as the first two.

and it’s not about being drunk, it’s about the behaviour when drunk, even big drinkers are totally turned off being sober next to a drunk person.

and as for fhe weed, unless he gets zombied then it’s very unlikely it’s anywhere close to being drunk

on your other threads you say you made a mistake, so are slightly more admitting responsibility, where as here you’re trying to pretend he is unreasonable

when you show someone who you are and they listen it’s really hard to put that genie back in the bottle, and the early stages of a relationship, it’s too early to try to go with it, it’s not worth the effort as that’s when folks are usually on their best behaviour and trying to impress.

this man has simply asserted his own boundaries, and whatever you were like that night when you were drunk and he was sober, it will have been enough for him that there was no coming back from it.

Eh. It's not always about the reason it appears to be.

The last person I broke up with was sort of because they never ate any vegetables. (I didn't specifically tell them that, though). Only, it was more because I realised my own reaction and feelings about them not eating any vegetables really told me all I needed to know about little I actually liked and thought of the person.

That's funny, green underpants.😂

If someone turned up drunk or out of it I’d bin them off immediately.

Nobody owes anyone a relationship, especially at the getting to know you stage.

Nobody has to justify their reason for dumping someone. Just because something seems like a small thing to you, that doesn't mean it's a small thing to them.

Regardless of his weed habit, it's up to him if he doesn't want to date someone who drinks. If it's important to him, it's important to him. What you think isn't really relevant.