To ask is there anything your regret from your life

[LovelyYellowLabrador]

I kinda regret not relocation to the seaside before my children became school age
but I’m not sure we would have been able to do that back then due to the costs etc
then all of a sudden it feels to late to go

I regret not listening to my inner voice more.
Trusting people That voice was telling me not to.
I regret the A level choices I made and staying at a school that was rife with billing from pupils and teachers

Not doing my piano practice!

Sick 💐💐 bad enough to deal with bullying form kids let alone teachers that bully

there’s a special place in hell reserve for such cretins tho

I regret not standing up for myself. For not calling the police on my abusers because "they're family you have to forgive them"...
For letting people walk all over me.

Pregnancy struggles. If I could go back and plan to start a family earlier, I would (notwithstanding I wouldn't want to change the DC I have!).

Not having a third child.

This - it took me 45 years and I did it. Now I’m embracing life I have a physical issue which was the most embarrassing thing about it and it disgusted me and I cover it up - not my fault it just is and I’d had it all my life from birth . I confronted the issue about 2 weeks ago and it took me all my courage and tears to confide in a specialist and she looked at it and said ‘I get it’s important to you but it’s not the worst I have seen and I can definitely hide it much better (it can’t be cured). I’ll do it myself next Saturday first one and then fortnight for 6 weeks and then she said I should be able to do it myself. The relief I felt. 4 weeks from now I might be able to wear shorts and a swimming costume etc having looked at pictures I honestly can’t tell other people who have the same conditions compared to me that she has done. A friend recommended her and I hope it will change my life.

Not asking why when my periods stopped at 37.

I so wanted another baby but I didn’t question my GP or ask for tests or a referral or anything. I just accepted it was early menopause and no more babies for me.

Biggest regret of my life.

I regret spending so much time on men thinking they could change and things would work out,now I'm currently 35 years old, single, and never have had any kids and I wanted to be married and have a little family. I now just despise men & am going to have to accept being alone, because in reality I'm better of this way, as I must pick all the horrible ones.

my breastfeeding journey with my son

the way a certain relationship ended a long time ago

not having a ‘profession’ rather than a hotchpotch ‘career’

There’s a lot I’d change about my relationship with my mum but I think it’s more about her personality so can’t really call that a ‘regret’ of mine.

I kind of regret always doing the opposite - I was good at languages at GCSE but dropped them to do science (which I was less good at/had less inate aptitude for but enjoyed more). Then while I was doing that completely ignored my biology teacher who told me she thought I'd be really good at 'x'. I went to uni because it was the done thing and studied a subject I wasn't great at (don't regret that really though or I'd never have met dh or had my lovely dc).
It's now nearly 30 years later and I'm at the start of a career in 'x' which my biology teacher recommended for me all those years ago 🙄😂

I regret not doing better at school. I regret not going to Uni and starting a career. I regret getting married and everything that has cost me. I regret not being able to help a loved one who took their own life. I regret a lot of things but I’m so worried about doing the wrong thing that I don’t change anything.

I regret not saving and doing Disney when dc were young.
I regret getting a dog.

Plenty.
I regret trusting one person in particular.
I regret not enjoying my youth more.
I regret the way I acted as an angry child/teen. I hurt a lot of people.

I regret not insisting DH have an internal defibrillator fitted as his junior consulted wanted and instead going with the opinion of the senior consultant who said we should wait three months. I regret not checking on him sooner when he went upstairs with a migraine. I regret not taking him off the bed and putting him onto a hard surface when I was doing CPR. I’ve no idea if any of those things would have prevented his death but I will always wonder.

Before he died I always said I didn’t have any regrets because they all led me to him, even the bad things, and in many ways I still feel like that - even the other worst thing that ever happened to me, having crippling PND, meant that he got to spend lots of time with our daughter before he died and that’s something I’m so glad about now. I’m generally a person who sees the good in everything. But I will always regret those three things and sometimes those regrets are too heavy to bear.

I am sorry @peachgreen about your loss and your regrets. Take care 💐

I've experienced a similar thing (but with my Dad) and it's so hard not to spend time wondering if the outcome could have been different if things had been acted on sooner.

This is much more trivial than peachgreen - you post is heartbreaking. I'd love to have some magic words for you, but there aren't any, I know. You did do your best at the time though. I'm sorry the circumstances were too big.

My regret is believing my DH over myself, over the actual words coming out of my mouth.

I regret too staying in a restaurant with him, before marriage, when an obese lady was served her giant slice of desert cake (American portions - Texan-style). He said something along the lines of "I can't believe she's going to eat that!" loud enough for her to hear, but I don't know if she did. My response was to shush him. In hindsight I wish I'd walked out. I can still picture her and the dessert to this day. I really don't know if she heard and I hope not. I feel ashamed at tacitly accepting his behaviour though.

Don't give up on men yet. You are still very much young enough to find a partner and have children. Your best option is to try otherwise in 15 years you'll be back on this board with your highest regret was giving up. Even if it doesn't happen at least you didn't give up at the grand old age of 35

Get a dog it's never too late

If I am brutally honest, I regret most of my life.
There is a part of me that hopes I can get reincarnated as someone better. I have given up on this life now.

Not taking the opportunity to work on Concord when asked to.

Same.

Shagging men who weren't worthy of full access my body.

So sorry for your loss peachgreen

bloodybhell life can be so bloody unfair and hard

💐🍷for all x

I regret my everything I did in my life from the age of 14 until 35. When I was 35 I had an abortion and that was it for me it ruined my life . Worst decision I’ve ever made and I’ll always regret it .