What were things that were important to you as a teenager, that no longer are?

[TooManyAllergies]

To me it was having a boyfriend and being thin.
Thought that if I’d had those, everything would be fine 🫣🙄

Also artist, actors and bands: had to know everything about them.
Now I can just appreciate their talents, don’t need to know anything about their personal lives.

Being thin.

The years I wasted pursuing thinness. I could punch myself.

What was number 1.

I couldn’t tell you a single number 1 from the last 20 years I don’t think.

I’ve not seen any of my school mates since the day I left.

I thought I was so FAT. Unreality I was skinny AF. So much wasted brain time.

Horses.

Getting 'fingered'

I literally stopped 'getting fingered' at about 16

WHAT THE FUCK WAS THAT

Being out doing exciting things at the weekends , taking photos, saving the tickets, buying the t shirt. These days I really like being at home and not having any firm plans.

RaRa skirts.

Sweat patches

Brett Anderson out of Suede. He was very important to me then. I had forgotten him until I read this thread.

Several reasons for me (53)

• brain fog is bad enough without adding music in the mix
• i like to (mostly) listen to LBC in the car
• i like quiet in the house, not 'background' music/tv/anything
• I hate EarPods when I'm walking, prefer the birds & my own thoughts.

Occasionally (usually when someone (like meatloaf) dies) , I'll play a lot of their music & I enjoy the odd thread on here when people post various songs/artists.

..but most of the time when I put music on, I just get annoyed with it adding to the noise/chaos in my brain and want it to stop!

My version of beauty used to be very narrow (2000's skinny, long hair, low rise jeans, flat tummy!) Now I appreciate beauty comes in all forms, shapes and sizes - for myself and others.

@Time40

i hope that answers you from one persons perspective. However, there's no need to be 'sad' for those of us that no longer feel the need to play music all the time. It's a bit patronising & rude to call us older and be 'sad' for us. 50 will come along MUCH quicker than you imagine!!

Nuclear disarmament, God (now an atheist), authenticity/being your true self (which I don’t really think exists, now).

But the vast majority of my values from that time are still with me - I still think politics is a big deal, I’m still fairly socially liberal, I’m still fairly fiscally socialist, I still most enjoy spending time with friends.

I’m a lot more mellow about things, even the things I’m passionate about, though. Time has shown me how messy life is and how different things look from other perspectives.

This is a great question OP. It's made me realise that apart from caring way less about what people think about me, I think that I'm literally the same as I was back then in terms of what is/was important to me. 🙂

Looking immaculate, designer clothes, handbags, full face of makeup, hair done etc
Being "on trend" with everything and what other people thought of me. The older I've got the more confident in myself I've got I couldn't care less what others thought these days.

I'm 30 and still think like this!

Maybe not with the bands so much, but the rest... 😂

Fitting in and wanting to be liked. I was always conscious that I did not fit in. Now I give no fucks.

@LoveSpringDaffs

i hope that answers you from one persons perspective. However, there's no need to be 'sad' for those of us that no longer feel the need to play music all the time. It's a bit patronising & rude to call us older and be 'sad' for us. 50 will come along MUCH quicker than you imagine!!

Errr ... I'm 59! I suppose I'd better do a name change now!

Needing to know what position every song was in the charts and getting excited about what was number 1. Having to know names of every band and song titles.

Thinking I was fat because my stomach wasn't 100% flat.

Being too ugly to get a boyfriend (earlier teens and went to a girls school till I was 16).

This is a great thread. I often think about how much I hate that I cared so much about what boys thought of me back then.

I wish I could have been just me without trying so hard to impress. Hormones I suppose and a much less feminist era. I really hope my daughter has more self-respect when the time comes.

Agree with tanning and having to lay in the sun at every opportunity (with face oil and factor 2 )

Scottish independence. Yes, we were banging on about it in the 1970s.
Nuclear disarmament. I thought it was a one-issue cause and not party political, and it came as a shock when I went on a march and the chanting was all "Maggie Maggie Maggie Out Out Out". (My family was working class Conservative.)
Being seen as deep and intellectual. And Not Like All The Other Girls.
A particular historical era with which I was obsessed.

Being popular. I do admit I do like to be liked, and sometimes that’s at odds with my job as a manager of a large team. Though I think most do like me most of the time

having a boyfriend. Been single for years (single mum) - really not interested

drinking - my life revolved around drinking alcohol and getting drunk until I was probably early 30’s. I only drink at weddings and a snowball at Christmas now

Losing my virginity, and getting off my face.

What others think of me. The world is so full of judgment about everything and everyone and opinions are like arseholes- everyone has one! Whatever you do, someone will want to criticise it or think they did it better or that you should live your life a certain way. You can never please everyone so live your life the way YOU want and as long as you arent hurting anyone else, it does not matter one jot what anyone else thinks about it!