Hands up I don't have many friends, but one friend I met shortly after birth of my first child has been who I'd consider one of my best friends for several years. I have supported her through difficult times and she has me. The pandemic has certainly made the friendship harder, but rules have been lifted for some time, yet still I am not allowed in her house and she will not come to mine, yet she works in a nursery. The nursery being the first secret. She left her job during the pandemic, as chose to keep her child off school when it was still open, and even though a key worker she still would not send her child in so ended up quitting.....she was very down and depressed, sought counselling but refused any medication as her partner didn't want her to take it....I encouraged her to get out and even sent her a few little jobs I'd seen advertised when she said she was looking, which she turned down. However the reason she turned them down was she had already got another job and kept it from me until she'd been there several weeks! I was confused why she didn't say, but brushed it aside and was happy for her. Anyway a few months pass and excuses keep coming, covid, she's ill, child has a sniffle, in laws coming over, DP off work and meet ups get rained checked, then she calls one morning to catch up after school run and clear as day as soon as I see her she is obviously pregnant! She says nothing, I say nothing, drop my youngest to nursery and she finally confesses, as if I couldn't tell. I am really really happy for her, she has had several miscarriages, but with only 7 weeks to go I'm really hurt she hadn't told me. I suspected it last time I saw her in January, but assumed not when nothing was said. She then says she hasn't told anyone at work but told her other child and swore them to secrecy and thinks she might allow it to be common knowledge now....I am so confused, how does she think nobody knows! I ask and she says she doesn't know the sex, even asked me to keep my son's old clothes incase it's a boy, but when at the park with the kids a couple of days later I see her partner and DD who is friends with my DD, but at different school, and I asked if she'd like to tell my DD her special news as I hadn't told her, and she says I'm having a baby sister, which is not at all corrected by her dad, so obviously they do know the sex 🤷 I am happy for her, I know how much she wanted this, and understand keeping it quiet initially, it's the lies that have been told along the way to deny the truth that have hurt me so much. My DH tells me to cut her off but I just want to understand, and am upset to lose what was once a really good friend. WWYD?