AIBU to not look after DB dog every day for six months?

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DB recently brought a puppy, it’s 12 weeks old. He worked from home when he brought it. He’s now been offered, and has accepted, a job that means going to the office for 4 hours every afternoon. The job is a ten minute drive from his house. He has asked me to look after it, to which I agreed until the puppy is of an age where it can be left. DB is now expecting me to have it until the end of his contract in November.
My DH is saying this is too big of a commitment for us. We both work, him from home and me a mixture of from home and the office. We have 2 DS, aged 2 and 6 and 2 dogs, 1 aged 5 years and 1 aged 5 months. We have just managed to get the 5 month old to a point we can leave her for an hour or so. DB’s doesn’t leave his dog, even for 10 minutes. He is literally with it 24/7, they even sleep together. DH says this will make life very difficult and restrictive for us as we won’t be able to leave the puppy, even to do the school/child minder run.
What do I do? I’ve promised DB I’ll help him but DH isn’t happy. Any advice welcome 🙏

Well, you can't do it, can you? Your brother will need to make other arrangements for his dog, which will almost certainly cost him money.

I kind of missed the first sentence when you said ddog was 12 weeks old. Well of course at that age it will be extremely hard to leave it. We built up on a daily basis by leaving rookiepup for a few minutes and then building up gradually, he's doing himself and ddog a disservice if he doesn't do that.
Yes as other have said, say what you're prepared to do and also leaving a dog alone is very different from leaving it in the company of other dogs. I'd introduce puppy to your dogs and see how it goes. Could be that they'd be perfectly happy for a few hours on their own together- not that it means you should compromise your summer holiday activities with the Dcs.

I think you having dogs will change things a bit, as the puppy will probably be happy to have them as company. But the fact it's still such a baby and too young to be fully house trained would make this a much bigger job.
Maybe see how it is with your dogs, see if you can leave them but maybe negotiate having the pup a couple of times a week and not over all of the school holidays.

the dog can be left surely for 4 or 5 hours by your db every day, in his house

if you agree, you could do it for 3 months maximum

I cannot think of one reason why you would agree to this. Helping family is fine, but this is going to impact your life for months. Madness. Say you'll do a month until he finds alternative plans. You should only do it if the dog fits in to your life, is housetrained and able to be left.

A dog is a big responsibility, your brother doesn't seem to understand this. What happens come November, if he finds himself in another situation where he has to leave the dog again?
He is a very irresponsible dog owner and he might think he's doing well by the dog but he's really not.
Dogs must be trained. He's being so unfair on the poor animal.
He needs to step up, and you need to be firm with him. You're not doing either of them any favours in the long run.

i am sure your db can be persuaded op

Your DB is asking far too much and not being properly responsible for the dog he chose to have. Put a limit on this agreement, he will have to find some kind of doggy daycare and/or train his dog properly.

So he’s only had the puppy for a month & he’s already dumping it on someone else?! Unbelievable.

YANBU. If he is effectively training his puppy to need 24/7 intensive care it's not reasonable to expect other people to look after it

Doggy daycare if your brother isn't training the dog he'll learn discipline there

Tell him you've changed your mind.

I am a dog owner and regularly look after family members dogs. You are totally NOT BU - he is highly irresponsible and not doing his dog any favours by not training it. And by taking a job which means he cannot look after the dog the way he has been. This kind of owner is the reason the shelters are full of hard to rehome dogs. He can pay for day care for the dog.

No - it can't. 12 week old puppies need lots of supervision, company and toilet trips (ideally they should be taken out every 20-30 minutes).

But none of that is OP's problem as it's not her puppy. Her brother needs to pay for daycare - even a walker isn't enough in that scenario.

poor dog yet another lockdown which will be seen as a nuisance

Your DB is right that 12 weeks is far too young to start separation training! They are infants and naturally cry when their caregiver is out of sight. I wouldn’t start this until puppy is 4/5 months. Do you live in the UK and could your brother use “borrow my doggy” in his area? This would take the pressure off you as the puppy gets older as it could have half days with its borrowers rather than just you.

It's not a lockdown dog, it's only 12 weeks old.

In fairness to DB, he is trying to be a good dog owner, hence his want for it not to be left alone. I think I’ll have a chat with him and explain that it’s more doable if DH and I have the dog a few days a week and suggest he does doggy day care the other days. Just until the dog is trained and able to be left, then I’m more than happy for the dog to come and be with my dogs for company. Thank you to everyone that offered support.

Unfortunately with a 12 week old puppy in the house, you're unlikely to be able to get much done.

Is your job compatible with all the work that comes with looking after a puppy?

He’s not being a good dog owner if he has within weeks (2? 4?) of taking on the dog he has taken on a job which doesn’t work for the dog unless you help him out!

“Just until the dog is trained and able to be left”
you said yourself he is not training him. If you’re not very specific eg”until June” you may find yourself helping him indefinitely here. Honestly OP you’re coming across a bit of a mug. Sorry.

I wouldn’t not be supporting another idiot who bought a dog because he was bored in lockdown. Let him deal with it himself.

Would not

Wow you are a people pleaser. As someone above points out, what if you can’t work while the dog is there? Are you going to hand in your notice and expect to live off your dh because your entitled brother asked you to look after his dog? Honestly do you go over every morning to tie his shoelaces? When you said a couple of days a week until it can be left you should have said a couple of days a week for one month and you will have to have it trained by then as it won’t suit us for the holidays. I would have said a flat no, I’m just amazed that you are putting your brother who refuses or can’t be bothered to train his dog over both your dh and your children, as well as your job, several days a week, for 6 months?! Op, would he do even a fraction of that for you? Don’t you owe your dh more respect and your dc more priority?