This is mainly a response to @OakRowan
Firstly, here I am. Previously LoveMyPiano, and before that DumbestBlonde.
As a lot of your vitriol seems predicated on your belief that I have had "many usernames", and that I have "posted for years"; those are what I wish primarily to address.
I have had ONLY those two usernames; this is the third, out of necessity.
I first posted about the "Needy Neighbour" in May last year - and that was my first post (or so I thought). There WAS no "problem" with her living nearby until that time, although I knew her as an acquaintance over several years before this. She moved in in March already 7 months pregnant. SHE chose to think of me as a friend when I wasn't (it may even have played a part in her trying to get the apartment)- and I have been painfully aware of the mixed messages that she gets from me, and other people.
The ONLY time that I had posted prior was in 2013 - and I really had forgotten about that. It was a surprise to me when I came to post last May, that I actually had an account. It was never used between 2013, apart from one thread, "Funny or not?" and 2021 and I never came back (as far as I can recollect) in between - as these problems did not exist.
I am separately asking MumsNet to confirm this - for my peace of mind, not anyone else's. But it is the truth, for the reason I have stated - and shall state again; she was not a problem for me, until the middle of last year. Despite my best efforts (being both close to her, and distant), she has become more of a problem, for me, her close neighbours in the apartments, for the neighbourhood, even for the village - and for the Police/official agencies, and of course, for herself. You are quite right when you say that I am not equipped to deal with her. That was reinforced during this last week - with the admonitions of Mumsnetters lingering in my head, and her actions of her own accord, involving the Police several times - and violence and ASB. Even if I am not involved, this is on my doorstep. Many people believe that she should be in Supported Living; I have no opinion either way, and I am not on that bandwagon.
Whether or not, you, others - or even I - think I can help, SHE thinks I can - and tailgates me to whereever I am, no matter what I say, or do.
When I posted about the bike, it was honsetly intended as light-hearted - and I was quickly made to look a fool for doing so. My humour does not seem to translate well to the written word.
Speaking of which, yes, I did say that a relative is a writer. That would be my Father, who has as you remember correctly, creates rather more than a "nom de plume", in that he uses his son's image and life history for the author blurb. Which has seemed very odd to me, as he has done local interviews in his town in Quebec as himself. I do not create any kind of pesona for myself - heroine, victim, saviour, Lady Bountiful or any other. If I did, it would be a better one thatn this!
My father has unfortunately played a large and deterimental role in my life to this day - and he takes a tone with me similar to the way you are doing (strangely) - and really does seem to enjoy gathering toggether my misdeeds and mistakes and parading them before me, for some reason. It is quite an ugly trait, I think. It certainly does nohing to improve matters, or the relationship.
But - messages, emails, letters and so on, can sometimes seem - by their nature - to be like a handgrenade with the pin removed, thrown into a room and the door closed. I understand that - in my case, in his, and yours.
I printed your message(s) off, not - as you want to think - to gather a "case", but because I needed to scroll up and down to read them in full, and respond to the points you made. I have done the same with the ones you have made today - and shall print off my own. Don't think that they will be kept in a file for later perusal and self-flagellation. I just don't want to miss something unintentionally. And I would find it hard to believe that you DON'T want a response from me. It is not, however, represantative of my reaction, which I think you don't care about at all.
I have some idea why you might feel infuriated - but again the vitriol is based on something that you have blown up, helped in no small part by feeling that you have and can garner support on a thread, which is nothing to be proud of. In my opinion.
I am missing things, I know. But you do need to get the facts right about my "history" here on Mumsnet. I don''t disgree that there is a theme - my tragic life and existence (/s) - running through what I have posted. I apologise if that is offensive or tiresome to you.
However, the History may be one thing - my future ability (or wish?) to post, is definitely in doubt, as - to my surprise and annoyance (but I am sure you will think it was a good move on their part) - MN Admin actually deactivated my account, so the email for LoveMyPiano could not be used. I had another old email that i have resurrected, but am sure that the IP address will be detected either by a human or a robot. I am holding my breath waiting for that to happen, and just hope that I can at leasts finish typing.
So, LoveMyPiano "vanishing" might have made it appear that I being cowardly or ignorant- when in actual fact, I couldn't post in response to some of the comments mande by you and others. I don't doubt that this one will meet the same fate. It's enough to make a person paranoid. (lol)
i am so very pleased for you that you have overcome your difficulties and feel able to make express your vehemence on a public forum; but however effed up and complicated my life may be, I am relieved not to be in your head.