how to know if someone has died

[dogpantsx]

I'm sorry in advance, I am very distressed.

My DF was a very troubled person and I had a difficult life because of that.

My parents are both very emotionally abusive.

I think my DF is dead (it is not relevant why)

Is there a way to tell?

Do you have an address?
i belief you can ask police to do a ‘welfare check’

You can check death registrations at the registrar office for the place he may have died. If it's relatively recent, it won't be on Ancestry or online anywhere.
If there was a Will it will eventually make it onto government probate records which do go online but not sure how quickly.

If you know his full name and birth info, you can look up whether there is a death certificate online or call GRO and talk to a registrar.
www.gov.uk/general-register-office

Although if you are non-contact (as it seems you may be?) - I’m not sure you would have good reason
Normally you can ask them if the person hasn’t been in touch as normal

You could also Google their name and place where they live. Might come up with local news article.

Do you think it happened recently, like the last few days? Or do you think he has been dead while?

Thats only if you believe he may actually be lying dead in his house, not to find out when he died if its potentially been a while & it's just the OP hasn't been informed

I don't think that's appropriate.

OP which country?

Try the local paper look at the obituaries online. 🍀

To clarify I think he will have had a funeral and I was not told.

I know it sounds strange but I got a card for my 40th bday from my DM (low contact) and just the way it was written I can tell my DF isn't there anymore.

I'm crying so much I can barly see the computer screen.

Google the name.
It could bring up death notices/obituary/funeral notices in the local newspapers in their local area.

Discretely have a look on Social Media for people who know him, you may find a snippet of information there.

@dogpantsx I'd have a look for online obituaries

Contact the undertakers in his local area in case they handled his funeral ?

If you have enough contact with your DM that she'd send you a card can't you just ask her?

Do you know where any funeral may have taken place. There might be an online list of services ( ie. Parish newsletter) or Crematorium records

If you are in contact with your mother (even if it is low contact) then the quickest way would be to ask her. Perhaps write to her and see if you get a response.

But if you feel you can't then you could try calling the council registrar's office. I am not certain how much they'd be able to tell you, but it's worth a go.

Check online for an obituary?

Is there anyone that you know who has contact with your family, like an old neighbour or family friend that you could ask?

Are you in the UK @dogpantsx or in Ireland?

There is a website called www.rip.ie that lists all of the funerals based on location in Ireland or you can search by their name.

I don't know if a similar set up is operational in the UK.

@StooOrangeyForCrows how do you do that? Sorry to be dense.

@LookItsMeAgain uk but thank you.

If you type in obituaries, his name and the newspaper local to where he lives you should be able to find it.

funeral-notices.co.uk/national/death-notices

probatesearch.service.gov.uk/

You can search for a will here if probate was applied for.

Very sorry you are having to do this. I tracked someone down two years ago.
In England, Scotland is different I believe. Deaths are recorded at the local Registrars Office, see local council website. They are recorded where the death happens not according to home address. A hospital which might be in another city or county though only a few miles away.
Phone them and say it is your Father but estranged. Mostly they are very kind, they deal with the bereaved every day.
Is it out of the question to contact your Mother?