To find ‘sure’ a rude and annoying response

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I don’t mean so much in answer to a question, as in “Do you want a drink?” Response: “Sure” (although I do find it a confusingly non-affirmative response in this context).

I have a relative who likes to use “Sure” in place of things like “OK”, “Good”, or “I see”.

A conversation will typically go like this - relative: “How’s work?” Me: “Pretty busy, lots of new projects starting”. Relative: “Sure”.

Honestly can’t tell whether they are trying to let me know they find me boring and don’t care for my responses to their questions, or whether they just think ‘Sure’ is a perfectly acceptable comment in most scenarios.

I used to think it was rude but I’m finding it’s getting used more and more now. My teenage daughters and all their friends say sure instead of yes, and they definitely don’t mean it rudely, they say it with a pleasant tone of voice. It must be a generational thing, in mine (and I guess yours too!) you’d say it in a sarcastic way when you really don’t want to do something. It’s not really used like that anymore though.

I wouldn't think someone would be replying "Sure" with the subtext of to my texts but only you know your relative.

I've always found 'sure' and responses like 'fair' really dismissive and quite rude but I don't know if that's just me! My OH thinks it's perfectly normal response whereas I never know how to reply after a 'sure' cos it sounds rude to me 😂

It's not intrinsically rude, I use it quite a lot myself, but I guess it could depend on the context

It would never even occur to me to view that as rude, how odd.

If you’d said “whatever”, I’d have agreed with you. But there is nothing rude about “sure.”

🤣 It isn’t rude, it’s casual and friendly!

The word ’sure’ is much more common in families with American or Irish links so perhaps it’s not common in your family but that doesn’t mean it’s rude.

Don’t ever move to Ireland 😂

I've never known anyone other than my American relatives us it to be honest and I have a teen

You're overthinking this.

"Sure" is fine unless people add "Jan" to it.

It’s fine. Unclench.

😂

YABU.

Unless you know them to be saracastic then it's just a shorthand for saying 'tell me about it' or 'I hear you'.

Reply "yes, I'm sure." 😁

I use it at work, if someone messages me and says 'have you got two mins for a call', I'll quick respond 'sure'.

Although they could have just picked up the phone to see if I answered or not!

A conversation will typically go like this - relative: “How’s work?” Me: “Pretty busy, lots of new projects starting”. Relative: “Sure”.

I’d be baffled by this - “sure” doesn’t make any sense as a reply!

It's a pretty rubbish response if they don't say anything else in answer to move the conversation forward but then so is a plain yes.

I use it all the time. I am Irish though 😂

It's a filler word. She means "I see" or "right"

Fancy a coffee?
Sure!

Not rude.

Dsd does this. It's always completely deadpan and accompanied by an eye roll. Aren't 14 years olds a delight!

The Google Home always says sure when you ask her to to something. I find it unaccountably rude!
Realistically it’s fine in place of ‘yes’ etc but in your situation it is a weird response.

to do something

A conversation will typically go like this - relative: “How’s work?” Me: “Pretty busy, lots of new projects starting”. Relative: “Sure”.

Do you ask questions back?
Conversations tend to be a 2 way thing and that conversation sounds 1 way, I probably wouldn't bother trying too hard if conversation was always like that
Apologies if I've misunderstood.

Thinking about it, my American relatives all say sure as an answer to thank you.