I have a date in an hour mins

[Ohsoworried]

And I am freaking out internally. On the train on my way. I feel so anxious. Its with a guy who is super super outgoing and I am really quite introverted. He seems really lovely but I'm just convincing myself that I'm going to mess up. I need to calm down and just enjoy myself. I've been single for 3 years and have dated a bit but I've never been that enamoured by the guys I've met. I feel like this is different and I'm putting way too much pressure on myself before I've even bloody met the guy! The last long term relationship I was in was incredibly abusive and my self esteem had suffered massively. I'm worried about my big mum tum. My flabby arms. That I'll be boring. Can anyone help me calm?!

Can't even type my title correctly 😅

Will chat on here help you ?
How did you meet?

Deep breaths, I’m sure you’ll be fine. Where did you meet him? It’s good that he’s outgoing when you are introverted, they’ll be no awkward silences 😁

How do you know him?

The more you think negatively the more likely you are to feel rubbish about it.

Think positively, think confidently. You got this! He obviously likes you as you’re going on a date. Enjoy yourself and have fun!

*there’ll

I met him online, but even though we've never met, we have a lot do mutual friends. Apparently he's lovely!

Ime train journey's are always exciting! Good luck op. We are all with you!
*not literally that would be too weird!!
😆

Did you meet online? It's the modern way!
You are going to be absolutely fine. Deep breaths. And opposites attract
Have fun and don't forget to report back. I'm already invested and have had more online dates than hot dinners!

We did!

You have mutual friends! That is absolutely perfect, as there's accountability then and at least you know you won't end up ghosted

Think of us all sat at home rooting for you ... you can do this!

Ohhh good luck! It is agony isn't it! 😂

That’s good there are mutual friends.

Did you hit it off by talking, writing, shared lines?

Have fun, OP. Be yourself and enjoy the excitement of it all.

Likes !
NOT lines !!!!

He's just a person, OP.
Consider it like a first stage audition, but not that he's auditioning you. The other way around. It's not that you have to decide whether you're right for him to want to see again. It's whether he's right for you to want to spend more of your time on. In dating, you should always come at if from the perspective of enhancing your own life experiences. Bluntly, you shouldn't be caring so much about how you come across to them, because to the right match, you will come across wonderfully just as you are and there won't be any effort in clicking. Don't start thinking about all the things you can modify to suit someone you've not even met yet. Be you, be unapologetically yourself, or you've wasted your own time playing a role.

Just enjoy meeting someone new and make no promises, search for nothing, hope for no more than an enjoyable meet and it'll pull some of the pressure off your shoulders.

Excellent advice OP

I'm excited for you! Please update us!

@Knifer

If Carlsberg did forum replies ...
You absolutely nailed that.

Eeek good luck and have fun!

Shamelessly here for a date update. Hope you have a great time OP!

I do agree with being yourself!! Know you are already there now (exciting!) but hope you have fun. Own who you are and make sure he matches what you want, not the other way round.

Put on your best act. Act confident, act breezy, act happy. Put on an Oscar winning performance! Start off that way and soon you won’t be acting anymore, it’ll all just flow naturally.

Enjoy it!

Oh and update us!

Good luck! Hope you have a great evening.